Anyone else's life a bit of a mess?

[SausageSimon]

Hate to be dramatic, but I just feel like I have very few positives in my life anymore!

I'm very fortunate to have lovely parents and a son and I feel extremely lucky in that respect.

However I'm a single parent, renting (I get told my house is lovely as I've spent a lot of time decorating it, but I know I could be asked to leave any time), partially reliant on benefits, overweight, debt, no energy, very few friends and a non existent love life. I definitely want more children but worry I'll never meet anyone.

I like my job but it isn't a long term position as I need more hours and to earn a LOT more!

Everything just feels a bit impossible lately so I've come to Mumsnet to complain 😳

I have a business loan available but waiting for a property is painful! I'm hoping it'll help me feel happier job wise and improve things financially. This COULD lead to being able to afford a tiny mortgage which would make me feel much more secure.

Then it'd just be the impossible task of making friends and meeting a nice man! Daren't get my hopes up though 😄

The amazing thing about everything being in the air is that when one thing falls into place - the rest can follow!

You sound sane and organised. It will happen for you!

I'm 26. No friends. Unemployed for the last 3 months. Desperately applying for any jobs - no success. No contact with my family. Been diagnosed with PCOS so constantly fearing whether I'll be able to have kids even tho not wanting any right now. Have cystic acne which knocked my confidence to 0. I have a boyfriend and love him to bits but constantly fearing what I do or say that's wrong or if he wants to end the relationship and feel like I'm never quite enough for him. Oh well need to push through it. Things will get better. Sorry for trolling your thread but you are not alone! Chin up, push push you are doing great. X

Oh good, is this a moaning thread? I am desperately unhappy. My long term relationship broke up two years ago and I haven't been able to recover. I wanted children but could never get him to commit. I don't want to recover in that way anymore, I want a different kind of life but I don't know what that is. I am hampered by depression and am resisting sinking back in. I have a series of what are seen as 'good jobs' but on shit contracts. Don't know where I will live once the house is sold or if I'll be able to get a mortgage. Want to run away. Love my cat. Hardly ever see anyone apart from work people. 'Good jobs' are not the way forward for me, apart from anything else, they don't earn enough money when you are single, depressingly.

Also, I look at general men and think 'I hate you'. Sorry to genuinely decent men who exist, I'm that woman staring you out.

Yep, massive fucking mess. I was in tears at playgroup again today. God knows what people think.

I'm 8 months pregnant, a nursing student and my husbands just left me and the kids 6 weeks before Christmas.

Is my life a mess?

I'd say so, yes.

Let me join in the misery.

Oh the outside it all looks fine but the reality is

I know lots of people but am extremely lonely. Never invited anywhere and always the bottom of the list of other people’s priorities or considerations

Seem to be swimming upstream financially. Just when finances were supposed to improve and I have a nice little nest egg of savings BAM I have to go to family court to fight my ex which is going to wipe me out, and then some!

Everything else is ok, I just struggle so much with the loneliness that I’ve gotten to the point where I can’t even try as feel so rejected all the time. And I don’t ever seem to be able to get settled financially, it’s always one thing after another

@PersonaNonGarter the best first message I could've imagined! I really appreciate you being so positive and I hope you're right that everything will come at once!

Ps. Thank you for calling me sane 😄

@OooohhDeer I'm sorry to hear things aren't great for you right now. I can definitely relate to never feeling enough for your partner, it's why I've stayed single for the past 3 years because I know it doesn't do me any good! I'm happy single for now but I'm anxious I'll meet someone and feel inadequate again.
I hope things work out on the job front, that can make a huge difference. It gets tiring applying for so many jobs! 🙁

@Ofthread this is the right place to come for a moan! It helps to get things off your chest sometimes. It sounds like you have a lot of upheaval in your life at the moment, I can't imagine what it is like to be separated from a long term partner especially when it means having to move home too. Do you have family and friends to support you? I have no useful advice but I just want to say I wish you the best and hope you find the new life you want!

@Ofthread I'm also one of those women that glare at men 😄 poor men! (the innocent ones anyway!)

@GreenDinosaur I really feel for you, it's one thing to feel miserable but it's awful when it comes out in public like that. What's going on in your life? For what it's worth, I would feel nothing but sympathy for anyone I saw so upset

@ThatOneHurt I'm lost for words, I can't believe someone would do that. Did it come out of the blue? I really can't imagine how you're feeling that's a lot to handle all at once and I hope you have family and friends to support you and your children

No you're not the only one. We're in debt up to our eyeballs. We're just about paying the minimum payment on our card every month. I'm also not able to work due to sciatica and depression. I've applied for PIP but know I won't get it. My child benefit payment didn't go into my account last night. So rang them to sort it out. (It was an issue their end) I asked when to expect the payment and the bloke said with 7 working days. I've got no fucking milk.
I'm sick of being in pain and sick of being skint. Life is just one big festering anal polyp at the moment.

I was born into a mess
My roots are in a huge pot of toxic waste
So it's no wonder I'm trying to grow and not a lot happening
No education so trying to get educated but need higher grades
To get anywhere
No support so can't get a job
Every day a trigger sets me off because my head is full of bad experiences
Welcome to hell
I defo believe this is hell -I have always said it

Mine is a mess too....my parents are both dead...my husband left me 5 years ago...kids away at uni....im almost always alone...i work a shit job topped up by tax credits....terrified of going onto UC...xmas is coming and im dreading it...all the adverts with the happy families etc...

I'm petrified of what the future holds for me. I've no qualifications at all. I plan on studying with the OU but the thought of accruing more debt seems bonkers. Once the kids leave education I won't get any money unless I'm well enough to work. Dh pays for everything and boy doesn't he let me know it.
I quit smoking in August and I really fucking miss it.

Oh ladies - so sorry your all having a tough time. I'm going to join the pity party ....
on the outside have it all, in the inside I'm crippled.
Currently going through IVF on the wrong side of 30.
Train 6/7 days a week, don't eat properly to sustain my workouts. Crippled with exhaustion.
Relationship is at breaking point due to dss and his idiot mother desperately driving a wedge between us. (Which now seems to be working)
But on the plus, I look the picture of health