Desperate for another baby but can’t :(

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I have three children, all boys aged 11, 7 and 3. My youngest son has SEN. Over the last couple of months I have become incredibly broody. All I can think about is having another baby but there are so many reasons why I can’t.

1. I am single and so even if it was a good idea I am missing the main ingredient needed for producing a baby.
2. I have mental health problems and after each birth my mental health has really suffered to the point that I was hospitalised for 2 months after the birth of my third son. I can’t put my children through that again.
3. I can’t afford a third baby.

So what do I do?? How do I get rid of the constant thoughts about having another baby? Will it just go away? I am so sad.

Having another child would have a major impact on your live children, what would happen to them if you fell ill again? Surely that's enough motivation to put your broodiness aside?

I keep telling myself that. It would be completely unfair and damaging to put my children through me being that ill again. I just can’t shake this desire.

Do you think the desire for another is heightened by the fact you can’t?

I have those feelings at times. I won’t follow through because my desire is for another baby rather than child iyswim? Also my eldest has SEN and another child would mean I would be spread thin caring for him.

Mingomingo I think you are right. The fact that I can’t have another baby is making the desire even stronger. I need to find a way to accept that it isn’t going to happen.

I have three. And desperately wanted my youngest who although I adore has Sen like his older brother. It’s very hard.

It will pass OP. Enjoy your young family.

Sorry your feeling this way op and can totally understand where your coming from .
We only had one as that's all we could afford and I felt so sad and cheated that we couldn't afford more . This was in the 80,s so apart from child benefit you had no help at all ,
but now we have three beautiful grandchildren and they are so similar to her it's like having her back as a child again .
Enjoy what you have now and look forward to children again in the future but ones you can just do all the fun things with 🌺