Joint party etiquette....

[Dickorydockwhatthe]

Dc has been invited a joint party from two people in his class. One is a close friend and the other isn’t really friends with dc. I normally pop £10 in a card especially for close friends. Would it be wrong to put £10 in one card and maybe £5 in the other?? Or should I put £5 in each and keep it fair?? It’s a whole class party.

We did a joint party for my daughter and her friend. We told people there was no expectation to buy for the other child if they didn't know them or want to and there was no expectation to buy for our child if they didn't know her either. Obviously there isn't an expectation overall for presents but we invited a few people who only knew my DD and asked if they needed to buy for the other child. No, of course not. Do what you like, no one will be measuring.

I'd put £5 in each.

It’s only because one of them is actuall one of his best friends so it’s quite difficult!! Would it be completely unfair if o put different amounts in the card??

I'd go ahead and put 10 in one card and 5 in the other.

Ok that’s makes me feel better 😊

Presumably they’ll open the cards at home later and not see what the other one has got?

I hope so but at the same time one is his best friend and the other isn’t really a friend if they were just friends I’d put the same in both.

All the school parties I’ve been to, presents have been opened at home after the party, so the kids won’t know you’ve given them different amounts.

And even if they talk about presents afterwards, it’s not unreasonable to give a best friend a better present than an acquaintance.

That’s ok then I don’t want to be unfair but I know neither would invite each other to their parties normally anyway because they aren’t friends. I wanted to give something because it’s his party though and that would be unfair. I still feel bad though 😔 but can’t afford to give that much to both xx