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chickencasserole · 09/11/2018 22:04

This is probably going to sound very petty, and a non-issue, because tbh it is. But it's bothering me and I was wondering if anyone had been through similar/had any advice on how to handle it etc.

I am in a friendship group of 3 other women. We all have children of a similar age and are fairly close in age ourselves.
One of the friends, let's call her Polly, is very overbearing and I find very childish at times. She is constantly giving us unwanted 'advice' and telling the rest of us how to do things parenting and otherwise.

Something I've found Polly is doing a lot of recently is sending us messages about 'playdates' but when one of can't attend, she wont let it go, like she's trying to rub it in that that person can't attend, going on and on about arrangements and what a good time it'll be.

I've started to mute the notifications now as it is irritating me and I know for a fact some of the other girls too.

Apart from eye-rolling and ignoring it, any other tactics/suggestions bout what to do?

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chickencasserole · 10/11/2018 11:18

No one?

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Tiredmum100 · 11/11/2018 20:29

I would carry on being civil but definitely keep the group chat on mute, or start distancing myself.

driveninsanebythehubby · 12/11/2018 06:31

Do you think maybe she's insecure and is trying to persuade the person who can't go to change their mind as she thinks it's because of her they don't want to go?

Maybe next time it happens, unless you're the one who can't go, start a separate WhatsApp conversation just for that play date and say in there you don't want x to feel bad for missing out, so can we all keep the info in this message please. If "Polly" then mentions it again on the other chat, she's doing it deliberately. If you're the one who can't go, ask them to set up a separate chat for it saying you don't want a ton of messages about something you aren't going to and don't want to miss an important message about something else as a result.

Good luck! Hopefully it's a case that your friend means well and therefore will happily set up a different group for the individual play date!

Labradoodliedoodoo · 12/11/2018 06:38

She’s probably just a very enthusiastic person. And when she offers advice or goes on about play dates is just confirming things to herself. Just comment asking the non attender when a good time to next meet would be and ask them how their week has been

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