Best friend has had a nervous breakdown

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What's the best way I can support her?

It's a pressure pot that has been bubbling for a while, very senior job with all the pressure and stress that comes with that, 2 young children had later on in life and a reasonably rare medical condition that has only recently been diagnosed but is responding to treatment. It's all come to a head and she is completely broken.

Live 1.5 hours away so practical stuff is harder (I,e I can't just pop dinner round) but I've offered to come up whenever she wants. I don't want to keep bombarding her with texts, we've had a few texts conversations and I hope I've conveyed that I'm here for her but none of us are great at asking for help are we.

Any thoughts/experience on what I can do to support her and her husband?

You sound like a good friend. When she's ready could you go visit her. At her home or out for a nice lunch. You could take a hamper made up of things she likes maybe.

Could you send her something nice by post?

Was just looking at flowers but that might be a bit dull. A nice candle or something?

I just want to take it all away from her. Her texts broke my heart, you could feel the pain.

I would go in person. Maybe after a chat with her husband. Surely he can gauge it.

Flowers aren't dull OP, quite the opposite.

Her texts broke my heart, you could feel the pain. I'm sure she could sense your concern and that will mean a lot. Feeling that others care is healing.

Yes will definitely go up when she feels she can see us, only happened this week so she's in complete survival mode at the moment.

If she lives in an applicable area, a voucher for Cook meals could be really handy if you can't take dinner round yourself. www.cookfood.net

That's a fab idea @EcceInPictura, thank you.

I’ve been in that position. Lots of people don’t know what to do or say so they do nothing, which means that every single thing that anyone has sent has been very special.

Flowers, chocolates, a card with a thoughtful message in, a nice bubble bath, a face mask, money for a massage. All the usual things you would send to someone to show you care.