So here’s the thing, my DH and I are pretty much living in a celibate marriage. His choice. Low libido, and apparently no interest in exploring options or offering ‘one for the team’ every now and then. Won’t really discuss it (10 years married, 16 together). Managed to conceive our dd 8 years ago, but it was pretty much a miracle. And not a hint of a romp since. Me? Female, high libido, many partners until this one ended my sex-life on me.
Feeling better about your own relationship yet? 😝
Anyhow, we’ve got a few other ‘normal’ issues, but this is a strong undercurrent for me. We’re 5 months into relationship counselling. We’ve had some epiphanies, some improvements in other areas. Problem is, he keeps bringing up how ‘angry’ he thinks I am. How I resent him, get irritable, don’t seem to trust and respect him as I should if I mean our relationship to work. If I give him that sideways look that says ‘Well buddy, any normal human would get a bit testy after a decade of no sex’ he claims I use it as an excuse.
So I ask you all, what behaviours or symptoms do you notice in yourselves after a period without getting laid? What do you reckon happens to a woman long-term, with sexual frustration inside a relationship? Obviously I take care of business alone, but it’s not the same.