Odd or am a being overly sensitive.

[Harleyisme]

Dc 5 in reception class has sen and still in nappies. Needs a fair bit of support in school.
Dc was off school monday and tuesday due to illness. Took dc back yesterday and to say the teacher and TA's looked disappointed to see us. Told teacher he hadn't been sick since sunday seemed fine just has a cough to which she responded with havent we all i said just letting you know any issues just give me a call she responded with hmm. Goes to pick teacher asked for a word dc had to be changed 4 times as he had soiled and was runny see what you think tonight. Now when dc isike that he gets sore as his skin is very sensative no signs of any soreness. He did soil again once later on but nothing runny at all. Now its not unusual for him to soil alot he always has and school knew this and its in his care plan. Also they could have phoned me and didn't.
Took him in this morning TA said morning x (Ta wasnt in yesterday) and teacher looked up and said oh yeah x is back then looked down again.
Its not the first time they said hes had runny nappies and i kept him home the day after and he was fine. I just don't get why they aren't phoning me if they think hes ill to pick him up and last time his teacher actually suggested i kept him at home the day after and i did. I didn't this time as hes genuinely not ill.
Dc is stuggle with school learning phonics the school have said that they have to keep stripping what they are doing back to basics and start again even simple things like getting him to have a drink. I get told one thing of senco that hes struggling with and starting to put more support in then in parents eveing his teacher tells me opposite. I am wondering if my judgement is clouded due to being confused or if the last 2 days interactions seem odd.

Anyone.

Am I getting the feeling you are saying the teachers aren't too happy when they see your child back in school again? Am
I reading that right?

Speaking from a teacher point of view, if a child is in nappies and needs a lot of support, then this will take up a lot of the TA's time. Does your child have a 1-on-1 TA, and the class have another TA? Or does the same TA help your child and the class?

If it's just the one TA for everyone, then this can become wearying when the TA has to repeatedly go and change/help your child, when perhaps they were in the middle of hearing a reading group for example, or in the middle of taking a group for painting, etc.

Perhaps the reason they aren't looking happy at your child being in school is because it might be quite a lot of work looking after them.

I don't mean this to be harsh, I really don't, I'm just giving another perspective.

On the other hand, I don't agree with the teacher at all; they should be professional and polite to everyone and not 'hmmm' like you mention. I am not sure why they are not calling you when they see runny nappies, I would have if I was your child teacher.

Happy to answer any other questions, please don't take offence at what I've said, 

Not annoyed at all i actually agree with you.

No they didn't seem happy at all.

I am not sure about support. There's the teacher and 2 TA's in his class i have been told so far he has support for nappy chnaging pe and they are starting to put more support in.
He doesnt have a 1 to 1 i have tried and even took it to tribunal in nursery to ensure he had the correct support for school and although everyone agreed about all his needs they said that there wasnt enough eveidence to support he would need support.

I dont know what else to do. I honestly agree its difficult for them but also dont what him to feel it. His teacher often gets snappy with him when we are going into school on a morning as he questions her when she asks him to do things like when she said x get your ready book out he asked why and she snapped back because i dont have time to do it. He feels everyones angry with him all the time. I have brought this up with school to be told well hes happy in school shows no signs of not being.
I am trying to get a gist of whats going on as we arent told much and when we are it gets contradicted.
I am basicly trying to tell if i am just being over senstivie because of his needs or if this is really going down a bad road.

What is his behaviour like?

You mention he is SEN, how does this display in class?

Sounds like the teacher doesn't actually like children much!

If he has a care plan and the school have accepted him then they should be able to cope with his extra needs, the teacher is out of order being off with you.

You don't sound as though you're being over sensitive at all . It sounds as though the school haven't been able to arrange adequate support for him .And that as said above ,the staff aren't being v proffesional .

I'm not familiar with how to go about this but would suggest you ask teacher for a chat . And when asking this ask if she feels it appropriate for SENCO to be present .

You need them to outline clearly to you what support they are curerently able to give ,whether they feel extra support is needed and how /if that might be provided and who by .And how can you help/support the school .

I am so so sorry you are in this position ,it sounds v hard .

Hes actually really good. Hes immature but thats to be expected as hes still within 22-36 months for most areas of his development.
In class basicly his sen shows as him struggling to do whats asked. Hes struggling to pick up phonics and numbers. Hes struggles to stay on a task very long. He chooses to do activites mainly that are to do with toys and isnt keen on any activites that involve drawing. He struggling to grasp a pen. In parents evening we were given a book to start working on his letter writing at 1 letter a week and i have to take work in to show we are doing and i have to stop reading with him and do the phonic sounds instead. Everyone else were told as long as there children are writing the letters by may its ok.

I may be wrong but I thought that schools were meant to differiante work for children with SEN . So that if he's not getting phonics they take a different approach .

There's not much point them just going down the phonics route if he's not able to grasp it .

I hope a teacher or someone else with knowledge comes on with suggestions .

Maybe ask over here
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs_education

They are supposed to change things but we were told that in reception class they want to see how much he can progress before they put support in and change things in phonics and orther areas. They have or were putting support in some areas now but they won't put it in all areas in recpetion.
The impression i am getting is they are using this year to fact find and build up evidence to prove what support he needs before more formal schooling starts in year 1 but i could be wrong and they won't out right tell me.

Is he in reception ? Was he at nursery ?

I suppose if he's at reception stage they'llonly have half a term's worth of experience with him .So reasonable for them to be gathering info .

But they shouldn't be giving the impression that he's a nuisance to them ,that's awful .

I don't how to advise you to tackle that - it would need v diplomatic handling .So post over on SEN or maybe bump your thread later in Chat .

Sorry not to be more help ,you are going to need good advice as your little one goes through school .

Yes hes in recpetion and yes he spent 2 and half years in nursery.

Its ok for not being able to help.
I agree its going to have to be handled very diplomaticly. I am just keeping a log of things for the moment and mentioning things that can't be left.