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Dvpo help!

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Sarahsworld1 · 06/11/2018 22:21

I've never used a chat site before but I don't know where to turn. My partner was removed from my property as he assaulted me (pushed and pulled me about ) during a heated argument. He recently lost his mum and attempted suicide I couldn't cope and we always argued about money as he had no job. He was removed and I was given a dvpo which prevents him for returning for 28 days. He has no family or friends and ended up homeless and kept sleeping in my car. I kept telling him to stay away but during this process he got a job offer and asked to borrow the car in which I said yes. I even paid for him to stay in hotel. One evening he walked straight back into my house and I didn't no he had a back door key. It annoyed me as I have a 7 year old and got referred to ss. I asked him to leave he said he had nowhere to go and threatened to kill himself. I let him stay as I had no choice . The arguments continued so I ended up calling the police again and he was arrested . I'm now sat here in tears as inno he's tried to turn his life around .... the main issue as too why I'm writing on here is he's on a suspended sentence for a previois matter non related to me which happened a year ago. Now I no he will prob have to do that sentence too and the guilt is killin me. He will go to court tommorow morning for the breach of the dvpo , will this revoke his suspended sentence ?

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jalapenos · 06/11/2018 22:33

I'm a magistrate, but from the outset let me say that although I've issued plenty of DVPOs, I've not sat on a breach.

A DVPO is a civil order, not criminal, and my understanding is that the breach remains a civil and not criminal matter. I don't believe that it would trigger activation of the suspended sentence.

However, the court still has the power to imprison him for up to two months for the breach in its own right. I can't comment on the likelihood of that, beyond saying that courts take a very dim view of people who breach their orders soon after they are issued.

FinallyFree123456789 · 06/11/2018 22:33

Hi op

What's the conditions for his suspended sentence? They normally come attached with conditions / time restraints.

Also, this is not your fault. At all.
He caused this.
It's not your problem he's homeless. He shouldn't be letting himself into your home uninvited and you absolutely did the right thing - you shouldn't have let him use your car / sleep in it, but that's done now.

Are you planning to get back together with him? Or are you back together with him?

Sarahsworld1 · 06/11/2018 22:49

Thanks for replying guys ! I feel like I have no one I can talk to about this. I have no intentions of getting back with him however I still care about him and can't help but feel guilty. Not sure entirely on bail conditions I believe it was only to attend probation and do various courses. I do believe he needs to realise he's not complied with the dvpo conditions even if that means imprisonement of up to two months ( I believe that's the maximum) I will feel awful it if activated the whole suspended sentence. He's very much alone and relied on me for everything and I'm emotionally drained. I couldn't cope. I just hope I have done the right thing :-(

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