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Birthday presents

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preggersteach · 06/11/2018 20:33

I'm not brave enough for aibu but just wanted to rant really. I know I'm being selfish and probably spoilt but just so disappointed and pretty gutted about the rubbish my dh bought me for my birthday. I'm currently on mat leave and have been struggling really since my lo was born but am getting there. I had asked my dh if he needed ideas for what to at me for my birthday (I had sent him the link to one small thing I wanted) but he said no it was all in hand. Last week he said he hasn't managed to get the thing I had asked for basically because he hasn't ordered it early enough. Birthday comes, he has ordered 3 things really last minute and so only 1 is actually here for my birthday, no card, present not wrapped, that one was okay. One present arrived in the post on my birthday but is for the baby really and today last present comes (he only ordered stuff latr last week so it didnt even get here on time for my actual birthday) which he has been saying how pleased he is with it as it is so thoughtful but it was just naff, no thought about whether I'd actually like it just something vaguely linked to a tv programme I like. I feel unreasonably annoyed and upset. Other than the picture there's nothing really for me, we have very little money due to mat leave and he's just wasted it on crap that will just get put in the spare room never to be seen again. Just feel like an after thought and that he's just wasted money we don't have to waste on stuff. I have usually given him ideas or told him what to get but he shunned that this year and was so pleased with everything he'd got but just with the whole feeling pretty crap post baby this has just made me feel worse. I know I probably sound very spoilt and unreasonable!

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WhyAmISoCold · 06/11/2018 20:40

A lot will probably say you are being spoilt etc, I won't as I think a partner should put some real effort into their partner's birthdays etc. He made a real half arsed attempt and it speaks volumes really of how little he appreciates you.

DinosApple · 06/11/2018 20:50

You are not spoilt OP, most people expect a little bit of fuss from their partner on their birthday. He should have been more on it, and more receptive to your hints, it doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't appreciate you, just he cocked up this time.

Have a chat about it, and make sure he buys you what you want for Christmas instead! Flowers

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