Argument with friends - what do I do?

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I'm late 20s and have two best friends. Met at our first grad jobs and have been really close ever since. We live in the same Northern city.

We were going to go skiing in February 2019 and were organising to do so but I pulled out because I have a medical op during the same week (skiing has to be that week - complicated reasons). All fine. Then other friend (friend A) drops out for unknown reasons, understandably other friend (friend B) is annoyed.

All okay - then best friends went out for dinner together (I was invited but couldn't go) and now neither will speak to me. It has transpired that friend B has said to friend A that I said she was selfish for not going without a proper reason and friend A has said to friend B that my operation isn't really that week and I'm lying (it's a long awaited op on a kidney) and that apparently I said I only wanted to go if friend A was going. They have both totally believed each others tales.

Nothing like this has ever happened to be before! I'm not a falling-out kind of person. I didn't say any of this stuff and have told them so and it seems so unfair. They maintain I did, even though it would have been over text as I haven't them recently and there are no texts saying anything like this.

What shall I do?

Get new friends.

Get new friends and be glad that you know now to to rely on them for support when you have your op. Also be glad you’ve not spent a small fortune on going on holiday these people. Nasty bitches the pair of them.

Hope all goes well with the op

Not to rely on them that’s supposed to say

What Tinty said. I think I’d have to walk away from the drama.

Although the best thing to do is probably to walk away, I would actually want to prove myself if I were in this situation.

Send a photo of your op letter to friend A&B and ask why on Earth they’d think you’d make that up.

It’s annoying that you can’t all go on holiday together now but it’s hardly your fault you’re having an op!

Thanks guys.

I'm think the same really, I guess I'm just really upset and it's become a bit clouded.

I think I'm realising actually how nasty it is.

This must have come as a shock. You say you have explained to them the truth yet neither accepts your version is the truth.

That must hurt but sadly says it all. You need to leave them to it and make new friends. If friend B approaches you having had time to think about it I might listen to what she has to say. Friend A told manipulative lies about your op and your preference for her over B, so I would block her altogether.

I would definitely send a photo of your letter regarding the operation.

It happens so often on here - three people in a friendship often doesn't work. One of the three often can't deal with it and has to divide and conquer.

I’d call friend A and ask her why she’s been shit stirring

I know on Mumsnet everyone goes NC if someone even sniffs in the wrong direction but real friendships are worth repairing, especially if nothing has happened like this before

You have no idea how A got to thinking your op isn’t essential for that day, and to be fair to B, it is annoying when you make plans and everyone drops out, regardless of the reason

@Shirleyphallus thanks for another point of view. I agree that it would be a massive shame to throw nearly 10 great years of friendship away over one argument, I just don't know how to even go about repairing.

Any other opinions greatly appreciated.

What did you decide to do?

Still in the same situation really @PlateOfBiscuits

Friend A has suggested we all meet up to talk but I am reluctant as they don't seem that bothered.