What do chatty people talk about?

[WelshRach5]

DS 13 has always been the type of person able to talk to anyone but I noticed he's not been himself recently & he finally confided that these past couple of weeks he's not been able to think of anything to say to his friends & it's making him feel really sad because he's always been able to.

I am very introverted myself I feel like I can't help him  he's always been such a warm friendly boy I'm not sure what advice to give him?

They ask leading questions about the other person and things such as -
What they've been up to at the weekend
Seen any good films recently
New games they'd like/ have tried (trying to make it relevant to a 12 yo)
Holidays
What they want for Christmas
Pets
Stuff on their phone

A load of shite usually! Empty vessels and all that.

half-joking

From my experience they just talk on and on and on about themselves, every tiny detail of what they could have for tea,what they had for tea yesterday,what they’re having for tea tomorrow bla bla bla.

You’re DS needs to take the pressure off himself. Conversations should be a 2 way street and if it’s not flowing it’s not all his responsibility. Maybe his friends are boring.

Asking questions is always a good place to start though.

Is it more that he's realised (or been told!) that a lot of his conversation was more 'childish' than his peers, perhaps? So he was happy to chat away but now has reassessed what he wants to say vs what other kids his age are talking about and he doesn't quite know how to fit in at the moment?

Could it be because he's not allowed to do or take part in what his friends are talking about? For example, if they're all obsessed with a certain game right now that he doesn't have and that's all they talk about, he might feel that he can't join in the conversation.