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Old friend blanked me in the street

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sigmasally · 05/11/2018 13:13

This moring I was in town running a few errands, minding my own business when I realised that myself and an old friend were on a collision course towards each other. This is someone I was close to when I was in my teens and early 20's. I helped her escape from an abusive relationship and helped her get set up in her own flat. A few years after that I went through a hard time with depression due to very difficult family circumstances and she effectively cut me out of her life because I was being a drag and wasn't fitting into her new life.

I found it ver painful at the time and really beat myself up over it for a long time, about how defective and rubbish I must be for her to cut me out like that. In time I could see she wasn't an especially nice person and she could be very envious and loved to feel she had one up on her friends.

Anyway, as I walked towards her not knowing what to do I decided just to say Hi, just hello. it wasn't an invitation to be best friends but just anknowledgement that we knew each other and I thought we could say "hi how are you, hope your well and bye thats it" As we got close to each other I said hello and she looked at me, then turned her head away, nose in the air and just walked right by me like I didn't exist!

It was pretty awful really, I couldn't believe anyone could be so ignorant and unkind. I still feel like crying when I think about it and just wanted to write it out and get it off my chest. Is this sort of thing acceptable nowadays has it ever happened to anyone else so blatently?

Just feel so crap now in the immediate aftermath :(

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allyouneedis · 05/11/2018 13:17

It’s always hard when you are there for someone and they can’t do the same for you. Try to forget about it, it’s her loss. She’s just rude and not worth getting upset over 💐

AtrociousCircumstance · 05/11/2018 13:20

Well she has proved herself yet again to be rather low and not worth your time. I think she’s done you a favour - you won’t bother next time!

Don’t feel bad, just feel anger and the cockle-warming sense that you’re a nicer human being.

MinionMania · 05/11/2018 13:20

She sounds like a nasty cow. I'm sorry that happened to you OP but when someone shows you who they are, believe them.

Clearthinking · 05/11/2018 13:21

Been there. Took me years to get over. 5 years ago had a bit of a argument with a dear friend that I had listened to non stop for 5 months and helped her through a break up. However i started to get anxiety and had a miscarriage (she didn't know) and one day I snapped, she retaliated said I was basically to much for her, said let's stay mates but has blanked me 3 times when I have seen her. Her dad actually asked my husband for IT help and we did as tried to be bigger person. Really can't explain the pain, why can't people just put it to one side and talk/listen? I'm sorry for the hurt it's flipping awful x

sigmasally · 05/11/2018 13:30

Clear thinking, I'm sorry to hear that its happened to you and that it shook you so badly. I guess some people are just not worth our care but then its so hard to know who will be there and who will bail the minute your the one who needs some help and understanding.

I feel like that was really it for us I don't think I could ever really be friends with her again. I'd be polite but thats it. We have some friends in common still and I could tell them what she did but I know I probably won't even though they would be horrified and one mutual friend has perviously said they know she is a selfish, jealous unkind person.

I'm just done with her but still hurt.

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Yeahmum · 05/11/2018 13:35

I've just had this happen to me too. There are some really shitty people around. It reflects badly on her, not you. Flowers

Clearthinking · 05/11/2018 13:52

You sound very nice and decent to want to move on. Don't worry about her she's not worth it x

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