I've name changed for this as this could be quite identifying.
I work for a small organisation in London, only 8 people and no HR. I do not live in London so any evening social event is a bit of a pain. Plus the fact I actually wanted to do something else that particular evening which is colouring my view.
We've been discussing a Christmas "do". I'd prefer just a Christmas lunch but it was decided we would have a "team building" event. Sigh. Fortunately though, it's nothing horrible like raft building but we're going out for an activity I am happy with but involves alcohol. The idea was we would carry on to a bar afterwards for drinks. No meal.
I have a rubbish tolerance for alcohol and also need my sleep. I also don't live in London so don't want to be drinking much. It's also a Thursday night.
Today in our team meeting my colleague asked if we could get pizzas in beforehand to line our stomachs and boss said no. I said I thought it would be a good idea to get something and he disagreed though ultimately conceded we could have something in a bar. But I got a bit annoyed because he keeps minimising my desire not to drink much alcohol. And then he really lost it with me after the meeting and said I had embarrassed him in front of the team. I wasn't rude in the meeting but I did say I was getting a little bit cross about it all. In a larger organisation HR would make sure any event was inclusive.
Yes I am a miserable anti-social cow.
But if I drink a lot I will spend the next day in bed, (a lot equals more than two drinks) which is as noted a normal working day.
Feeling very tempted to jack the job in but do not want to cut my nose off to spite my face. I am usually quite rational but he has really annoyed me.