Hi guys! So I’m new to this but I’m just at my wits end now and don’t know what to do. I got on pretty well with my in laws before becoming pregnant but as soon as I became pregnant the MIL became completely over bearing. My partner is in the forces so wasn’t present for many scans and she would just invite herself/ turn up so my mam never got to come with me unless I kept the scan a secret! We then paid for a gender scan as OH managed to get 2 days home so we went to window to the womb and invited both of our mams. Partner then got called back to work so we had to change the day it just so happened that MIL was away on the day we booked it for. She then began to cry, shout and insist to my OH that I hated her and was trying o cut her out of the babies life. Which was not the case at all, we simply wanted to find out the gender together. I had a pretty bad labour and ended up rushed into theatre. When I had her I was in critical care recovering but was in to much pain to be able to get out of bed so needed my baby to be passed to me. The in laws then decided to visit (despite being told not to as visitors aren’t allowed so soon in critical care). My partner then had to leave me to go and pick them up as they refused to pay for parking at the hospital. When we finally got home after 3 days we got home late afternoon and then by the next day my OH was insisting on taking her to their house as they would not stop ringing and texting him asking him to bring her over but they weren’t coming to our house as “it was awkward” and they were “too busy”!! Anyways 4.5 month on and I’m raising my daughter on my own due to my OH being deployed when she was 5 weeks old. They have done nothing to help me. They text constantly asking me to bring her over yet never offer to come here to see her, or even come pick her up and take her to their house. I offered them to pick her up from nursery 3 days a week due to them wanting to see her so much I thought they’d be glad of the offer but she refused saying she “didn’t want to go out when the weather got cold” (she’s in her 40’s). So now we have an arrangement where I drop her off at their house on a Thursday, there’s never a set time it’s just when she texts me to come over and then I have to also pick her up. Yet now she thinks she’s entitled to know everything and for me to text her every aspect of my child’s life. I know it’s becuse she cares but it’s completely over bearing. Referred to me and my OH as “kids having kids” we are 22 because I told her not to leave my DD to cry. On Saturday texted me an awful message after she asked if my DD had a poo saying I should be informing her if there’s things, that I should think to tell her to save her from worrying instead of leaving her worrying all night. Just because when she had her on Thursday she never had a poo! I am completely fed up. I have enough to do with raising my dd on my own, at uni and also back at work. I have 100 more important things to do and think about than texting her constantly and that I have enough on my plate without her making it worse! Any advice on how to approach this without causing a huge argument?
