People assume I’m an extrovert

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Any advice appreciated
I’m quite chatty, friendly, outgoing
My job involves a lot of person to person interaction and a lot of it is heavy duty and emotionally draining
I do like company and other people
But
I am increasingly finding that I need much more space and time on my own to recharge. I have been off work over half term including a trip away with the family
I just broke down last night as I just needed space
The place we are staying is busy and I have struggled to get some “me” time
But when I say that it makes me sound like a navel gazing selfish bitch
I should want to spend time with the dc’s and dh. I work full time so we are all back to busy normal times this week
Am I some sort of weird introvert/extrovert hybrid or just a selfish cow.
Can someone change from extrovert to introvert as they get older
Or do I just need to get a grip

Who are these people who think needing alone time is weird and selfish? I’ve never met one. If my friends and I are talking about meeting up, and someone doesn’t feel up to it, they just say no thanks I want to chill out and relax on my own. It’s never been a problem! Of course it’s not weird or selfish to feel that way

I have an hour long bath most nights! That’s my peace.

So do I @coattails! I used to feel selfish doing it because I thought we should be having 'family time', but I came to realise that we're all happier having time in the evening to do our own thing.

Because imo people usually women are conditioned to think they need to be all things to everybody

I can totally relate to this and am finding that I need more time alone as I am getting older, think hormones could play a part, I am 43. I fantasise about living on my own and after a difficult October with my Dad being very ill, I feel as if I just want to be on my own to recover. When I feel less low I do feel more sociable. Have always viewed being an introvert as a negative thing. Older boy had a friend over yesterday and tbh I just felt yet by and had to hide it

I'm an introvert, but I can fake being an extrovert most of the time. I think a lot of people would not realise that I'm not an extrovert.

I need time on my own.

Am beginning to wonder if it’s linked to hormones or whether at a certain age we stop giving a shit
I seem to have far less patience these days and see my time as precious
But I work full time and have ditched lots of other commitments due to this
These thread has been food for thought for me and how I plan and prioritise going forwards

According to every personality test I have ever done, I am an introvert (Although not on extreme end). Except for my immediate family and dh, every single person who meets me would say I am heavily extrovert. I enjoy social situations, am chatty and very comfortable meeting new people, and work in a career.that involves constant communication (and I am very good at it).

However, what none of those people see is my need yo be left alone a lot of the time. I simply can't function if I don't get sufficient time alone. Thank God, dh gets this and happ8ly accommodates my need yo be separate from him and children (as I do for him) on a regular basis. It's normal and only a problem when that alone time becomes impossible.