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Is my son maybe a bit emotionally immature and energetic, or could he have ADHD?

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BasinHaircut · 04/11/2018 08:58

I’m approaching the end of my rope, so is DH. Every day is miserable at the moment. DS(5) is out of control IMO and just so much more compared to other kids. I spend my life trying to get him to calm down.

Some examples:
Ask him to put his shoes on and he goes 0-100 full tantrum screaming no etc

He is playing Lego and a bit breaks off/he can’t get a bit on where he wants it. I’m over the other side of the room completely not involved and he will scream in rage, get up, come over and hit me.

Trying to get him in pyjamas after bath time. He is constantly shouting, jumping off the bed, going completely wild without any provoking at all. Again 0-100 in a second but this time excited rather than rage.

He is so LOUD all of the time.

He does not stay still ever, even when falling asleep.

There are loads more examples, I can give additional info but it’s all just so normal to us now that it’s hard to separate out what’s over and above ‘normal’ and what’s not.

We are on egg shells at all times wondering what will set him off. Cannot relax from the moment he wakes until he falls asleep. He is relentless.

Taking him anywhere is a million more times more stressful than it seems to be for other parents.

He is in year 1 at school, seems to be doing fine. Good reader, only negative report is he doesn’t sit still/concentrate unless he gets 1:1 attention and talks constantly distracting others. He is a popular kid.

He is a good boy for other people and plays well with others.

If you read the ADHD symptoms on NHS choices it describes him quite well. But then they just seem like examples of what kids are like in general.

Sometimes on a good day I’ll think we are being to harsh on him, but then other days he is so awful I would gladly send him away to boarding school (not a joke).

I feel so shit as I have resorted to screaming at him a few times as it’s just so infuriating.

Does anyone have any similar experience or advice?

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Stillsmilingin2015 · 04/11/2018 09:23

Hi
My son is 8 and was diagnosed with ADHD last year. My one regret was not persuing my suspicions / fears earlier on as he was labelled a trouble maker in reception / year 1&2.

Id suggest having a chat with his teacher or your GP for a referral to CAHMS. it took us about 6 months to get seen but once in the system it all progresses quite quickly.

One issue we have always had with our son is that he’s a bad sleeper. Now he’s older I know he has thoughts racing through his head and can’t wind down to sleep.

My son is a good boy and I am sure yours is too. They just can’t control their impulses and that is bloody hard work!

It does get better as they get older, understanding he has adhd really helped my son too. We’ve not medicated (yet) but about to start as my son is asking for it as he wants to be able to focus more at school.

I hope that helps

beautifulgirls · 04/11/2018 09:27

I think you should look into getting him assessed and finding out either way. You will probably need to go via GP for a referral and may find initially you are fobbed off so might be worth asking school in advance to put down in writing briefly (class teacher?) the difficulties they have with his concentration at school so you can show them this from the outset.

hmmwhatatodo · 04/11/2018 09:30

Hi op, no, I agree it doesn’t sound ‘normal’. Whether it’s ADHD or something else, do you want to go on like this for the time being/possibly long term? No, of course not. Speak to the teacher and maybe ask to speak to head of SEND so you can get things moving for an observation ASAP as these things can often take some time.

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BasinHaircut · 04/11/2018 10:51

Thanks all. I will definitely have a word with the school as a first step I think. They haven’t raised it as an issue with me and my more than being something he needs to work on but in the context of how he is at home it might be a different story.

stillsmiling not being able to control his impulses is such a good description. It’s so hard to put into words without people just thinking he is a bit of a ‘high energy’ typical boisterous boy. He is at his worst when I am around for sure though.

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