Should I go?

[JoeandJane]

I've started a new team and they're lovely. One of the girls is leaving and has invited us all for a night away in a cottage. She's been there years. I'd love to go but maybe she's invited me to be polite and would rather her old work mates be there?

Assuming you didn't know her before and 'new' is very new, then yes, I would assume its an invite to make sure you're included.

But that's a sign that she's a lovely person & this might be an opportunity to get to know your team. I wouldn't think she'd be put out at all if you went - it's a work team, not close personal friends or family.

Do you want to go? Are they your kind of people & is this the sort of weekend you'd enjoy?

That’s generous of her. I expect if she only wanted a select few she would have invited them quietly. She’s leaving so no need to include you if she didn’t want to. Therefore you are obviously genuinely invited!