Dd’s friend staying over has the worst BO

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I’ve suggested they have showers before they go to bed. Both dd and her have said no. The whole of the upstairs of the house smells. I’m not really sure what else I can do. Dd’s room smells eye wateringly bad.

Is it just a case of put up and shut up?

Have they discovered proper deodorant or are they still in the Impulse Vanilla Kisses stage? Dad used to complain about one of my friends who regularly stayed over - she was just spraying herself with body spray instead of using actual deodorant. He used to ask if anyone wanted a shower and say there were clean towels etc, and she never took him up on it. Eventually our group twigged that you need deodorant too and the problem went away! Try telling DD that you need proper roll-on/ spray anti-perspirant and she might tell her friend.

swimming is your answer here. everytime shes due for a sleepover make sure they have a great time at the local pool.

"When ds has a friend to stay I present it as fact.

“right time for a shower, who is going first? Don’t forget to use shower gel/deodorant”

I'd be very unimpressed with any parent who felt they had the right to make my child shower in their house. I would never have had a shower in someone else's house at that age.

The possibility of the friend wearing the same clothes for a few days if they are in a low income household also occurred to me.

I’d be very unimpressed by anyone who didn’t adhere to basic standards of cleanliness.

I would never have had a shower in someone else's house at that age.

In which case you would have been quite welcome to return home.

Would be very interesting if both sets of patent are on this thread!

The young girl may be dealing with something called hyperhydrosis is and may be incredibly self conscious. I wouldn't bring it up to the young girl

I wouldn't make a fuss for the sake of one night. The poor girl might be mortified, for all sorts of reasons others have suggested.

I'd be very unimpressed with any parent who felt they had the right to make my child shower in their house. I would never have had a shower in someone else's house at that age

I second this, DS10 would never have a shower at friends house.

I can't believe the poster who said they would never have had a shower in someone else's house at that age. Unless of course they are of the generation in which people didn't bathe/shower very often, post war and all that.

People who stayed over with my son always bathed or showered or both. Didn't think twice about it, they just did.

Msybe the poor smelly girl will have one in the morning. The OP would be quite right to suggest it, frankly.