How old to be left alone at bedtime if been sick?

[GiveMummyTheWhizzer]

Just a quick one; DS who is 8 has been sick a few times this evening (first time as soon as he went to bed).

At what age do you put them in their own bed to sleep when ill?

Normally I would have him in with me but I'm 9 months pregnant (due Tuesday) and a.) don't sleep as it is and I would be awake all night and conscious of every time he moves and b.) don't want to increase my risk of catching it if it's a bug.

We don't have a spare bed anymore as spare room is now the nursery and DH flat out won't let me sleep on the sofa so that he can go our bed with DS.

I know there's no real solution just wondering what the norm is....

Not to drip feed - he used to have febrile convulsions up until about 3 years old whenever he vomited so it has made me a little nervous every time he's actually sick.

I would say 8 is old enough to be left with a bucket.
Why won't your husband let you sleep on the sofa?

@dontticklethetoad he doesn't want me to sleep on sofa as I'm 39 weeks pregnant and he knows I struggle in bed as it is

It's up to you. My four year old always sleeps alone after being ill, she just calls out or comes to get me if she's feeling unwell again. If I felt I had to stay them I'd go in with them as a single bed is easier to change than my king sized if they're sick in the night.

My 4 year old is regularly sick and has a bucket, we are only in next room. Have you got a monitor you could use for your peace of mind?

My 2 and 4 year old are able to be left alone with a bucket.

Febrile convulsions are when the temperature spikes too quickly so is your son just being sick or does he have a fever as well?

At his age I think he is fine in his own room. Keep all the doors wide open and if you aren’t sleeping anyway, you’ll hear. If you so nod off, I’m sure you are probably up loads in the night for the loo, so just keep quietly checking on him.

Any reason you can’t sleep in his bed whilst he is in with your DH though rather than the sofa?

@SpottingTheZebras he's in a high sleeper type thing so even if I could get on it at 39 weeks pregnant I would never get off!

He's not had a convulsion for many years and has been sick in that time - it just still makes me wary. His temp seems to be ok at the minute fingers crossed.

Yes, you go in DS bed, he goes in with DH?

Oh x post - 9 months pg on a high sleeper

Do you have a baby monitor?

My 4 year old goes to bed with a bucket if she’s been sick, I just leave her door open.

Mine have always gone in their own beds with the doors open, but we have a small house. If it was bigger I'd prob keep them in with me!

I'm prob just being an idiot. Sorry.

My DD has seizures but for my own sanity she was left in her own bed around 5. Before then I used to sleep on her bedroom floor.

We’ve got a high sleeper and a few times we’ve taken the mattress out so Ds can sleep on our floor-can you get DH to lift it down?

Some of you have very good 4 yo's - DD(5) barely wakes when she vomits, and certainly can't get to a bucket. We need someone with her in case she chokes.

OP, could you sleep in your normal bed, DH on the sofa and DS on the floor next to him (possibly on a mattress if DH can get it off the high sleeper and you have space). That way you get to sleep, and DS is with someone.

@SheepyFun and @Teacherlikemisstrunchball yes I think we are going to try one of your suggestions.

He's still retching just bile every half hour or so at the minute. There can't be much more to come out.

Bless him. Ds had a similar bug earlier in the year, poor thing. (Though his first episode was at 11.30pm when he woke me up by being sick on my pillow ) that was a bloody long night hope he feels better soon and you don’t catch it!

My DS is only 2 but I can see me still wanting to be nearby if he's unwell when he's 8. I doubt you'll sleep if you leave him in his room anyway OP, you'll be wanting to check on him every 5 minutes.

I'd get the mattress down from DS's bed and put him on the floor in your room if you can fit. Otherwise you/DH sleep on mattress on DS/lounge floor and the other sleeps in your bed with DS.

Hot wash everyone's bedding etc tomorrow and dettol the hell out of the place and hopefully you'll be grand! Hope DS feels better soon and good luck with baby!