Overbearing Mother in Law

[Punkysoph]

So my partner and I have been living with his parents for nearly a year now and before I got pregnant his mother and I got on ok to say the very least. Now my son isn’t even a month old and I cannot stand this woman she is unbelievably controlling/ interfering and I don’t know what to do. My partner always sticks up for her and makes out like I’m the bad person. She constantly puts me down for breastfeeding my son ‘he’s not getting enough’ ‘you’re over feeding him’ ‘switch to a bottle’ she even had the nerve to tell me to leave him alone when he was asleep in his pram. The problem is that I’m under her roof and feel the need to keep quite. My partner and I have had multiple arguments about this and don’t know how to resolve it, I’m a first time mum and the last thing I need is her breathing down my neck. Also moving out isn’t an option due to finances. If anyone has any advice that would great before I decide to headbutt my mother in law 💆🏼‍♀️

Can you go to your own family and stay with them? Send a clear message that this is just not on and that your DP needs your back, not his mother's.

This must be so tricky as I also think you need to be patient when they are helping you out so much by letting you stay so long.

If your relationship is good enough and you can say it kindly enough I would probably want to gently explain you feel like you need a bit of space just you and baby to concentrate both on each other and on how you want to do things. And thank her for her involvement and could you say I still of course want just as much time together but need the space to look after our baby my own way :even if that looks frustrating to you at times if you’d do it differently it matters to me??

Get out .... the situation is not going to improve and your husband has made it clear that he has no intention of backing you up.

Anyone else suddenly thinking of the thread by Hannah (think that was her name?)

This frightens me slightly.... OP PLEASE go stay with SOMEONE for a couple of nights. It is THE only way you're going to get through to them that you are the mother!!!! She has had her chance to raise (at least) one child as she sees fit!

My family home isn’t suitable anymore as my mum past away a couple of years ago, I know for a fact she’d hate some other woman bossing me about especially about mothering my own son. I just feel so stuck, I know I’m going to snap at some point.