During my childhood I had a wide range of friends and acquaintances and thought of everyone as being on equal standing to myself, regardless of ethnicity, religion, (dis)ability, sex, nationality etc. I never even considered treating someone differently on account of any of these characteristics (unless it was as a reasonable adjustment to being deaf/blind etc.)
But I feel like the more society talks about these characteristics and the more I read about "how to be more inclusive/understanding" or how to "recognise my privilege", the more I find myself noticing race/sex/(dis)ability etc. I hate the fact that there is now a small voice in my head which is now telling me to do X because someone is Y. It's got to the point where I keep hearing myself go ("this person is Y, this person is Y" which feels all levels of wrong).
Something about it makes me feel so incredibly racist/sexist/ableist and I genuinely think it's starting to put barriers up between myself and others.
For what it's worth, as a Muslim female 
, I would hate to know that someone is measuring their responses and actions to cater towards me being a Muslim female. I don't want people to walk on eggshells due to fear of offending me. If rather they air their views openly so I could propose my viewpoint where I think they've been naive or unfair, rather than them keeping hush hush and harbouring negative thoughts towards women and Muslims with the guise of friendliness on the surface...
Of course our legal structures need to recognise demographic differences and our society should seek to eradicate the structural barriers that impede minority participation/opportunities. However I think the way the subject is being discussed is reifying difference in a negative manner.
Does anyone feel similarly or have I just gone mad? I honestly wonder whether identity politics is actually perpetuating -isms rather than breaking down these walls.