My friend has phoned me in absolute bits this morning, her 16 yr old DD (just 16) has disclosed that she was raped a few months ago. It’s someone known to both her and my friend but he’s two years older.
It sounds like they had been having some sexual contact over the previous weeks but not full penetrative sex. An incident occurred where he came round to see her and the rape occurred at this point. She had already said she didn’t want any sexual contact at that point.
My friend was severely abused as a child and this has absolutely broken her.
I want to help but hardly know where to start . I’ve given her the contact details for our local rape crisis service.
The DD is adamant she does not want police involved as “they won’t believe me”.
The boy involved who lives nearby has referred to her DD as someone who will do anything. I know she is indulging in some risky behaviours and has had a lot of input for this. Sexting and the like. She meets her boyfriends online and wants them to be able to stay overnight immediately in her bed “just to cuddle” but obviously my friend won’t let her.
This is a very messed up girl who needs a lot of support , she’s dealt with a lot in her life including witnessing domestic violence. I am have known her since she was 5 and am very fond of her and want to help her.
Can she talk to police and not share his name? I think she fears being judged and she’s only just 16 so may not be thinking clearly. Obviously if he’s a predatory 18 yr old who does the kind of things she has suggested then the police need to know about him.
I have said to my friend to arrange a check for STI
However both of them are going to need support going forward. My friend feels awful as the rape apparently occurred when she was in the house. My friend is disabled and in lots of pain and at times her medication knocks her out and I suspect it’s at one of these times it occurred. She is feeling guilty and worried that if it is reported social services will get involved and judge her for being asleep at the time. I’ve tried to reassure her that this wouldn’t be the case.
Don’t know what else to do apart from listen to both of them if they need to talk.