Am I selfish

[mummytwoone]

Hi everyone I just thought I would write down how I’m feeling. I work full time with children and have 3 children of my own I never go out with friends but hubby goes out at least twice a week always to watch his football team at weekends I do all the housework can’t remember the last time hubby even put the hoover round. We live in a rented house that needs work doing to it. Hubby says we have to watch what we spend so trying to keep Christmas gifts low. I just feel so deflated I love spending time with the kids but when do I have me time maybe I’m just selfish and shouldn’t be untitled to me time because I have kids but I just feel just once in a while I should be able just to breath and stop and recharge.

Time to make a date with a friend for next weekend - whatever you fancy. Do it and no excuses that you can't or your husband will moan. YOU have to do it as nobody else will.

Then time to sit down with your husband to talk about why he's a lazy, selfish pig.

So your dh is keeping his family on s tight budget to subsidise his hobbies & twice weekly football matches? How do you feel about being emotionally & financially abused and taken for granted?

Have you asked him to do specific jobs? Have you planned an evening out and arranged it with him? No use complaining if you haven’t made clear what you want. If you’ve talked about it with him and had no response then you need to be a bit more assertive and do less.

Lots of Christmas temp jobs being advertised now so get one that has you out of the house every weekend & a few nights a week. So he'll have to pull his weight as a parent and actually look after his own kids. If he complains then you reply that he said money was tight so you're contributing towards Christmas.