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THE DOG

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Mummy6661 · 26/10/2018 13:28

Hi all

So Basically, i have been with my other half for 2 years now. I get on well with his family and have no problems.
However, i am facing an issue that is starting to impact our relationship.
THE FAMILY DOG
This dog is a dog that cant be left on his own at ALL. Not even for 5 minutes or he cries and has accidents.Hes not a rescue dog , he has just been very spoiled since he was a pup.

Now, through out our whole relationship, my other half and myself have had to cancel plans or change our plans to allow his parents to go out while we watch the dog. This could sometimes mean being in all weekend to look after him.
This has always been the way but recently its really starting to annoy me as its started to put our plans behind the dog.

For example, his parents would decide one day that they will be going up to london for dinner and would be gone the whole day. The day before they go my partner would get a text saying ' you and your brother need to arrange who will be staying in Saturday'.His brother NEVER and i mean NEVER looks after the dog unless it suits him.Therefore, 99% of the time its us that have to stay in and change our plan.However, on this particular Saturday, we had plans to also go up London for the day to celebrate my birthday early. We have now had to change my plans to look after the dog and this has caused major arguments between myself and my partner as he is an easy come easy go guy.

What on earth do i do as it has really started to affect my relationship.

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ApolloandDaphne · 26/10/2018 13:30

How weird. Does he still live with his parents? No dog needs to be looked after every second of the day. How old is it? Maybe time for some strict training to be done.

Fashionista101 · 26/10/2018 13:30

That's a bit shit. I'd be texting his mum saying, can't this time as it's my birthday and we have plans. Perhaps you can arrange a dog sitter for your dog?

BertieBotts · 26/10/2018 13:33

Is it your dog or your PIL's dog? Seems quite crucial to the issue.

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cinders15 · 26/10/2018 13:37

If it is his parents dog, they have a responsibility to train it correctly rather than impose that on others
So they either do intense dog training - here is a list of Victoria Stilwell trained positively.com/dog-training/find-a-trainer/find-a-vspdt-trainer/ or they find a doggy day care and pay for dog sitting
Not anybody else's responsibility really

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Mummy6661 · 26/10/2018 13:39

He does still live with his parents. The dog is 9 years old i believe. The dog is my PIL.....Unfortunately no dog sitter is good enough for the bog.....-_-

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ApolloandDaphne · 26/10/2018 13:41

Maybe he needs to move out and leave the dog responsibility to his DP?

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Mummy6661 · 26/10/2018 13:44

We are saving for a deposit but it still wont be enough for another year or so... If we last that long with this bloody dog from hell

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Mrsemcgregor · 26/10/2018 13:44

I would be tempted to tell your DP that you are going to London regardless. If he insists on staying with the dog, then go and have a wonderful day in London on your own. Treat yourself to a lovely lunch and maybe get a ticket for a show.

Then seriously consider if you want to continue to play second fiddle to a dog.

Singlenotsingle · 26/10/2018 13:47

Put a kennel in the back garden, and the dog can shine and have his accidents out there.

Singlenotsingle · 26/10/2018 13:48

Whine not shine Hmm

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Mummy6661 · 26/10/2018 14:07

Honestly id love to teach the dog to stay in on his own even if its just an hour. It'll be a start at least.
Its not the dog vs me, its actually his parents vs me. If he doesn't do as Mummy asks then there's a problem.

I will be having a stern talking with him tonight about this as i'm not letting a dog dictate what i can and cant do anymore.

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