saddest thing I have read in a long time. Trigger warning: upsetting content

[YeahCorvid]

I am in a bit of a state having read this.

trigger warning: suicide

www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/greater-manchester-news/i-just-cant-find-way-15331347

I have been, in my own very minor way, in such a state after trying very hard and failing to get medical appointments. I'm 47 and I can remember when you could just ask to see a dr and you'd get seen - in the first instance you would phone and get through; and then you'd get an appropriately timed appointment.

This woman had loving parents but still couldn't keep all the balls in the air. I'm a single parent of two children but they are NT and have no disabilities and I have a well paid job; even still I can see how you hit points where you just don't feel like you're going to make it. I can't bear to think of this woman, trying and trying and trying for years on end and ending up being treated with such utter disregard that she gave up.

I'm in bits.

What can we do? How have we let our society come to this? And what do we do NOW, TODAY?

What if someone feels like this right now two streets away from me and no one knows?

What can we do?

Next time I see someone on here sniping NO ONE EVER NEEDS THE DOCTOR EVER WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE BLAH BLAH DEFICIT KNOW YOUR PLACE I will come screeching like a banshee and informing you that this attitude KILLS people.

A sad story, the whole family neglected by the state.

Not convinced you ought to use it as a stick to berate posters on here.

yeah that was just a throwaway bit at the end - not the main point - it's something I say a lot on here though, it isn't clever to imply that people are getting uppity when they ask for help

I thought it might br about this when i clicked on the thread, doesnt surprise me tbh, i have a severly autistic child we get no respite and when you ask for help i feel im often made to feel its my fault for not coping

Sorry to hear that AamdC.

Next time I see someone on here sniping NO ONE EVER NEEDS THE DOCTOR EVER WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE BLAH BLAH DEFICIT KNOW YOUR PLACE I will come screeching like a banshee and informing you that this attitude KILLS people.

No one ever says that though do they?

no one uses those words but it is increasingly fashionable on MN not only to parrot, but to exaggerate, advice that implies that most people seeking medical help are timewasters.

It's a tricky thing obviously, because how do you select the very small audience that are time-wasters from the general range of people who will hear it? non experts on a board like this addressing a huge mass of people should not just keep hammering this message in the undifferentiated way that they do.

With mental health issues in particular, this is really dangerous because if the convention becomes that having to fight for help is how the bar is raised to exclude "time-wasters", then by definition the wrong people are being excluded. People who have the psychological and emotional wherewithal to put up a fight are not the most vulnerable.