Young adult paying their way

[BundyLancroft]

DS has just turned 20. Is living at home and working about 20 hrs a week for a low wage. It will vary as he can do overtime. We have spoken about him giving me a contribution towards the costs of his upkeep. He is saving for travelling adventures. How much would be fair to ask him to pay? A fixed amount or a %?

I want to teach him all the right life lessons. Plus I could do with some help. He buys a lot of his own food and his gf is here about half the week.

I wouldn't charge him. You say he is buying lots of his own food.

I would just stop all direct debits you pay for him e.g. phone, Spotify, Netflix etc. And he can buy all his own clothes/haircuts/luxuries.

My DS is working similar hours in order to save for university next year, he is giving me £500 a month to save for him, this will actually help towards mortgage interest as we have an offset mortgage. He is also cleaning my house (bathrooms and hoovering/dusting). He has also blagged a job cleaning our friend’s house once a week for 3 hours.

I’d say £25 p/w is fair, he doesn’t earn much and is buying most of his own food. Unless of course you need more in which case maybe think about what you’ll do when he isn’t there. Stop paying for his phone bill though! Is the contract in his name with your bank account details?