Public tantrums judgemental onlookers.

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My 5 year old just had the mother of all meltdowns on the bus on the way home today I think she was just incredible tired it’s been a long week at school. I can forgive her for that children have tantrum. But what I felt was the worst thing about it was the judgemental old biddies sat in front of me who kept turning around and muttering things like well I never at us and giving us both disgusted and disapproving looks. What is it about onlookers when your child is having a tantrum in public do they honestly believe children come fully equipped with on off switch, do they expect you to beat them in to silence, have older people forgotten what it’s like why are people so judgemental?!

I'm with you completely op.

My DD has some minor sn...it means she often has tantrums... combination of frustration and tiredness usually.

I absolutely hate people who stare and judge. They'll judge you for any way you to try handle the situation too so you can't win.

I know it’s like when you try to set some firm boundaries in the situation there’s allways someone judging you for being to harsh but if you try and be relaxed about the situation then you get the “parents knew how to discipline their kids in my day.” Comments it’s like you can’t do right for trying.

DS was about three when he had the mother of all tantrums during which he threw his beloved cuddly down and it landed in a muddy puddle which upset him even more. All of this took place opposite a bus stop where four old ladies just sat in silence & stared. I'm generally quite positive in my outlook so just thought that at least we'd given them something to gossip about!

Thing is though op. Had you have shouted at her. You'd have had all the Mr and Mrs Tumbles shaking their heads saying. "Ooh the way she shouted at that poor little poppet",
You can't fuckin win with people.

I’ve learnt to ignore it now
My son has adhd and as a toddler had regular massive sometimes violent meltdowns
I learned to stay calm stick to what I’d said to him I.e no is no and / or remove him from the situation if possible
Although pp is right there will always be someone judging you no matter how you handle it
It’s a rubbish time but they do mostly grow out of it.