'Well it can't be mine'

[wopbamboo]

Hi, looking for advice.

Might be pregnant. Highly highly unlikely though since we use condoms and I was very ill last month leadings to us only having sex once.

But my period is 8 days late.

Told my partner and he said 'well it can't me mine' in a half jokey way.

And I thought.... hmmm I'm not sure I like that phrasing.

So what do I say to him? I don't want to be a Debby downer but even though he I think was kind of joking it also implies mistrust..

That's a very odd reaction. Maybe he's just nervous though?

Try talking to him about it more.

We've been together 8 years and have a child so it's not like he's frightened of commitment. I'll chat to him tonight. I brought it up the other day but he didn't say anything.

8 days is a long time for a period to be late though.

I think as he was the one wearing the condom, I'd take it as a joke.

TBH I think it's a slightly odd conversation. Just take a pregnancy test and tell him if you're pregnant or not.

Can still get pregnant using a condom and only having sex once. Take a test and find out.

I think your partner was just joking too.

He was kidding. I expect he just meant 'that seems highly unlikely given I was wearing a condom so let's not jump to conclusions' not literally 'you've had unprotected sex with someone else haven't you'

He was prob just joking. My DH has said similar type of thing before in a joke when I was pg.

Are you taking it weirdly as there ARE other potential fathers?

Surely after 8 years you'd know him well enough to know if this was the sort of joke he's likely to make?

Why wouldn't you just take a test ??

But of a non event really

Slightly immature response but he most likely was just trying to make light of it to help you stop worrying. Sounds like he misjudged your mood but I wouldn't think any deeper into it other than it was a daft ill timed joke.

And yes, take a bloomin test. 8 days after due on date is plenty of time to get an accurate result.

Another here not sure why you'd labour the point at the moment, or look to clarify if you have no proof of pregnancy. Maybe pull him up and say you weren't sure if it was a jokey response, but wasn't funny once you have an answer?