I'm struggling to understand my brother in-laws behaviour.
He calls my husband nearly every day asking: where you to? What you doing? They are grown men, late 40/early 50s, does he really need to know where he is or what he's doing nearly every day!
It's got to the stage that my husband's phone will ring and he will say 'I bet that's my brother'.
When he comes down, he moves our garden bench, he never puts it back. I for one would never go to his or anyone else's place and move their furniture/belongings around. My daughter has told him I do not want the big heavy bench on the grass and I like it left on the decking. Yet he still does it. To annoy me I guess!
He's constantly trying to avoid spending at our expense instead. He knows my husband isn't working, but he and his wife have solid long term regular income. We are trying to renovate our house. Yet, when he needs something, he's on the phone asking for plasterboards, nails, screws, cement, etc, instead of going and buying his own.
He expects my husband to drop everything and jump for him. He will try to make my husband feel guilty. For example: My husband and I had plans to go and pick paint. He rang, he wanted my husband to go and pick a bed up with him. My husband said yes, no probs but later today, as we were just on our way out to get paint. He starts going on at my husband you never got time for me. I've told the woman we will pick it up now. So it can't wait. My husband gets off the phone and starts taking it out on me, shouting I can't please no . So he went with his brother and I was left to go pick the paint myself. The bed was left outside his brothers house in the trailer for 3 days.
He distracts my husband from doing our house for his own convenience. For example. He's MOT was due on one of his cars, they have two cars. He rang my husband to take his car for the MOT, which he did.
My mother in law past and without any discussions with my husband, they have made all decisions around what's left, money and what will happen to her house. The most selfish act I am upset by is that their mother had saved money away for the grandchildren ready for Christmas. Instead of keeping it and giving it from her, to the grandchildren as per her wishes at Christmas, they have split it between themselves.
I'm just wondering what people think of this behaviour please, as it's causing lots of argument between me and my husband.