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Infidelity

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Isla47 · 24/10/2018 17:25

Hi there, I know what you are all going to say but I have nobody to talk to 🙁. I am getting married next year to what I thought was the best guy ever. He has looked after me, my kids love him so much but I had a gut feeling and had a snoop (yes I know). He has been using the fab swingers site for the first year of our relationship. I know he isn’t now (due to checking his google history) but he has severe depression and I am sure it is because he can’t do this anymore. I tried talking to him and he got very angry and defensive and totally denied it all. At that point I just couldn’t confront him with the evidence. He now hasn’t worked for a year, says he would be lost without me and definitely hasn’t been searching for whores. Do I just try and forget it and carry on? I can’t put my kids through another break up and despite all I have found out he is so lovely to me. Just don’t know what to do 😢

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Shoxfordian · 24/10/2018 17:47

Leave him. He has no respect for you and he'll do this again. Don't settle for someone who lies to you like this. Don't marry him.

Spanglyprincess1 · 24/10/2018 17:53

You need to.confront him and talk about it then decide. Tbh him lying when asked is a big red flag.also the search just shows not.used this site not that he hasn't cheated through other means. to me it.would be a deal breaker but you need to get all the information, speak to him and decide for.yourself.

Isla47 · 24/10/2018 18:12

Thanks to you both, I am so torn. My kids love him, I do to (I am such a strong woman I can’t believe I’m in this situation). I tried to confront him but he just denied it all. So torn 🙁

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Shoxfordian · 24/10/2018 18:25

He's disrespected you. Don't carry on with this

LanguidLobster · 24/10/2018 18:29

Don't like this...you don't want to live your life on the back foot constantly looking out.

He might be nice in some respects but you and your children deserve better.

Rebecca36 · 24/10/2018 18:33

Don't marry him. Apart from possibly looking for other women, he doesn't work! What's the point of marrying someone who isn't earning?

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