Faffing ..... argh.

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Me: okay. Well u have to go to work in a few hours. So we really need to go shopping etc before u go.

Her : okay. So we need to go straight away.

Me : yes. Puts on coat and shoes

Her: okay. We will be quick then. Does everything in the world apart from leaving.

Me : knows shopping for food isn’t going to happen. Wonders what canned chick peas alone will be like for dinner.

Next one :

Me. Leave by 9.30
Her: okay. Yes. Up and out the door.

Me and entire family sat in the car at 9.45. We are going to be late.

Her : comes out. Pops head in the car door. Oh good she says. We are not ready to go just yet. Back in the house for another 15 mins.
We are then late.

And....... breathe.

I too was a victim of a faffer. Eventually I said the car leaves the drive at 9. If you aren’t in it, make your own way. Kept my promise and since then it’s much better. Harsh but being late is stressful and rude.

Can't stand faffers.

Leave them behind. Go without her. They'll soon get the message.

DS2 is a faffer. It drives me mad. I'm doing my best to beat it out of him (metaphorically speaking of course!) as I don't want to inflict a faffer on my future DIL.

Leave her there! How rude to the people you're visiting and to you when she went to the car and then went back into the house!

What on earth was she doing?

Hated that about my XH. He thinks work starts at 11am = get in the shower at 10.55am even though he's been sitting about for 3 hours.

So happy about 'X' part!

I went on a long haul trip with an elderly faffer. Almost threw myself down the stairs several times out of frustration. I love her but that trip was too much!

My DH is a faffer, although he's not as bad as he used to be. I've managed to get him down to only being 5 minutes behind schedule. I think being on time will happen soon!!

I was recently the victim of a faffer. Had to get on the road to make a journey of several hours and wanted to be home before bed time. I was ready to go, all packed, car packed, etc. Had to endure the faffer needing the loo for ages, then they wanted to freshen up and jump in the bath, then I heard their hair dryer going and then they decided they wanted a nap to be fresher still... and kept snoozing the alarm. I think I need the dentist because I gritted my teeth so damn hard!

Oh my goodness. Nice to hear it is not me. I’m only here till 2m. So will be nice when I’m home. I’m sorry everyone else has this too. It is so frustrating. Yes ur in a rush. So don’t start sweeping the floor. Or putting on washing that we then have to wait for to wash and hang up. Oh my word!!!!!

My MIL is a champion faffer. I have two impatient toddlers. She is lovely but when they are itching to go out and she says "oh I'm ready to go, just need to put my shoes on" and then takes fifty-five minutes to actually leave the house, I am pretty much ready to explode with frustration.....

Ruby slippers yes. Why just why. My mil was the first one up. For hours. Yet the one not ready. Watched her go back and forth to different rooms. Not doing anything. I try to be patient I really do.

OP, my theory is that MIL is such a laid back person that she doesn't 'get' why it irritates/ inconveniences other people when she's late, as (to be fair) it doesn't bother her when they are. The fact that she's retired and has nothing particularly urgent to do, when they actually do, doesn't seem to occur to her....

When she babysits I've tried telling her in advance that we will need to go at x time in order to be (for example) at a doctors appointment at y time. Still doesn't work, she will be running as late as if I'd never mentioned it. I now tell her a time at least 15 minutes before we actually have to go so my blood isn't boiling as much when she faffs!

Just leave them and go without them.

Faffers also never wait for other people so would never sit in a car waiting for anyone else.

It's selfish . They would rather people waited hours for them than they wait 2 seconds for you.

Faffing is very annoying but why not just go shopping by yourself?

DB is a faffer. DSIL is a saint. I would have killed him reallly badly by now.

OK, we take 2 hours and 40 minutes from me getting up to going out of the door. But there's no faffing. Some of it is just because DD needs so much less time than DS2 to get ready.

My husband says I faff. But if I leave it to him and go straight out he'll leave without feeding the dogs, bringing/replenishing the baby's changing bag, making sure everything is switched off and doors and windows closed. He'll pack no drink or snacks for the baby and nothing for her to play with on a long journey.
So the faffing is again left to me...

God this made my blood pressure rise just reading it.

I flatly refuse to cater to anyone like this. You either move on time or you are left behind.

I have actually gone out and shut the door behind me before the DC have moved on one occasion.