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Shit things so-called friends have said to you

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Hisaishi · 24/10/2018 10:50

I've always struggled with friendships, even from a very young age. As a result, I've sometimes hung out with people who didn't really respect me and who talked to me like dirt. I am feeling kind of shit about it today, even though none of them are major but it bothers me that so many people have so many bad things to say about me.

I went to a dance class (first time I'd ever been to a class since I was five or something). I had a great time, danced and chatted with loads of people. Very nice-on-the-surface touchy-feely social worker vegetarian friend-to-all type friend asked if I was going again. I said yes since I'd had fun and wanted to learn more. She said 'Really? You are a really wooden dancer, so I didn't think you'd want to go again.'

I know it's not insult of the century, but I felt so deflated. I'm sure I was wooden - it was my first class ever and I'm generally a self-conscious person so of course I sucked. I still kept hanging out with her (but eventually gave up on her because she kept saying shit like that.)

I think what annoys me is that, as I said, she's very much the 'earth mother' or whatever type so everyone goes on about how wonderful she is, how kind, how loving etc, but she always makes sly little digs at people, talks shit about people behind their back etc.

Anyone else had people say mean, passive aggressive shit to them?

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walkinginshadows · 24/10/2018 15:27

Your friend is no real friend.

When I had a baby 3 years ago a friend said to me “you’re the last person I’d have ever thought would have a baby.” Another friend said “You’re having a baby? That’s the last thing I thought was in your life plan.”

When I got married another friend said “wow, you are the last person in the world i thought would ever find someone to marry.”

Not in contact with any of these friends anymore ☹️

sofato5miles · 24/10/2018 15:41

Oh another mate who was under tremense pressure to find a husband ( v old fashioned mother). "Why am I failing? Why is it so hard? Sofa, even YOU have nanaged to get married."

lolaflores · 24/10/2018 16:54

I wonder if age has anything to do with it. I met up with an "old friend" at a place we used to hang out in as teens.
I haven't seen her for some years.
First thing shse says when we sit down
"God, the last time we were here, we'd just got our leaving cert results. I felt awful, I'd got four honours but youd only got 2 and I didn't want to say anything even though i had really thought I would do so much better"
I was stuuuuuunnnnnnned.
As the years have gone by, her life has not turne dout how she would have liked and I think she hadn't expected me to not sink into obscurity or absolute poverty. I am by no means an stella success but I am reasonably contented. She and her family are very concerned with "stuff" The trappings of social standing etc. and so far none of that has worked out for her. Things have turned out just a bit mediocre. Over the years her wit has become bitter rather than sparkling. The rest of the lunch was peppered with other barbed comments which I didn't rise to.
I spent an hour with her, made an excuse and promptly took her off the xmas card list.
In contrast, I spent ther est of the weekend meeting up with lots of old friends, some I hadn't seen for 30 years and the difference I felt round them highlighted what an utter ball bag of a sour faced bitch that old friend is. How could you want to make someone feel so demeaned within mintues of seeing them?
Beyond me, but I am not going to waste an ounce of my energy trying to work it out.
The End.

Booie09 · 24/10/2018 17:01

One ex friend said to me "i think your pretty and will find a boyfriend no matter what anybody else says" that was 20 years ago....and yes I did find a boyfriend who us now my husband....and she's split up with the father of her children, she also thought she was God's gift! tall, skinny and with curly hair...she's still tall and skinny and rocking her Bon Jovi perm shame she looks really dated!

HenSolo · 24/10/2018 17:05

Oh god I had a ‘friend’ like this in school and after. I was so insecure I just used to take all the stings she sent my way. She only did it to me so I felt a bit mad and if I brought it up people told me off as she was ‘the nicest person in the world’
Last time I saw her at a wedding a few years ago I was talking about my studies and she said, ‘yes we know about them you’re never off Facebook. I’m far too busy for that!’
Unfortunately since becoming confident I haven’t seen her because now I would’ve been able to stick up for myself. Now I only hang out with nice people so haven’t had a chance to test out my 30’s confidence dammit someone be mean to me!!!

FrazzyAndFrumpled · 24/10/2018 17:18

Booie09 Confused that comment makes you sound like the bitch!

Booie09 · 24/10/2018 21:17

Maybe I am towards her....because that was just one comment out of loads more put downs I had off her!!

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