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Can you hold my hand? DD (Y5) changing schools, last day today and I feel so sad

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Plipplops · 24/10/2018 10:15

DD is in Y5, in a tiny class in a small school. She's had some friendship/bullying issues and is changing schools after half term. Today is her last day. Her teacher was nearly crying this morning (I think as much the thought that someone is sad in her classroom as anything else). We're picking her up half an hour early to go to her new school to meet the teachers/kids before half term.

I just feel so sad. I know it's the best thing for her and she's excited to be starting somewhere new (but also bricking it about being the new kid, and very sad about leaving some of her class and her teacher). Not sure why I'm posting really - could maybe do with some "we moved schools and it was the best thing ever" type stories?

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hmmwhatatodo · 24/10/2018 10:25

I’m not sure what your reasons for moving are but I moved schools and homes when I was younger. I hated that we moved when I was older (probably nerves more than anything) but actually it was quite a relief to be in a much better school.

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Plipplops · 24/10/2018 10:47

She's just miserable where she is. There are only 5 other girls in the class and one of them is v manipulative and controlling (so lots of "lets not play with X" sort of thing). Her best mate left a couple of years ago and she's not really been happy there since, and the prospect of 2 more years there is too much. New school is 10 minutes up the road (we're quite rural), and much bigger so finger's crossed for much more opportunity to make friends.

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TheVonTrappFamilySwingers · 24/10/2018 10:56

Well I have come on to say your DD will be absolutely fine. Kids are pretty resilient with these sorts of changes and as she is moving to a larger school I bet she will make friends quickly and be very settled. I speak from experience as a mother and a teacher. You have made the right decision as staying where she was in a small friendship group with an unpleasant girl calling the shots will only be hugely detrimental to your DD, so well done you.

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Plipplops · 24/10/2018 11:09

Thanks VonTrapp, I really hope so. It just feels so sad that it's come to this, her teacher looked SO sad this morning and today I just can't stop crying either. I dread to think how they're getting on in class. I just want to bundle everyone up, give them a hug and make it all ok but there's no simple answer... Sad

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WhenDoISleep · 24/10/2018 11:27

My DS moved for the start of Year 3 and settled really well, by the October parents evening (so about six weeks in) the teacher said that it seemed like he had always been at the school and it was hard to remember that he was the 'new boy'. He's year 5 now and a couple of new DC have joined at the beginning of term - they seem to have settled equally well and are making some good friends.

It sounds like it is the right thing to do, spending another two years in a miserable environment would be tough - hopefully the new school will be supportive and have strategies in place to help her settle.

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Plipplops · 24/10/2018 13:34

Thanks all. Just been let down by someone at work so now I have to be there instead of taking her to the new school (DH will go so she'll be fine but I'm so gutted). What a shit day Sad

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foxyfemke · 24/10/2018 14:27

I moved schools when I was 10 as I was being severely bullied. The plan was to move after the Christmas break (I think), but after my settling in afternoon I didn't want to go back to my old school, so the new school allowed me to start earlier. One of the best things that ever happened to me, moving school.

Good luck!

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Plipplops · 24/10/2018 17:29

Thanks. I cancelled work (wouldn't have been very effective thanks to all the crying at the thought of letting her down). When we left her old school (half an hour before the end of the day) a bunch of girls were all waiting at the fence crying which was sweet and also incredibly sad.

Went to the new school - her new teachers seem super kind and wonderful, and lots of girls in the new class were really smiley which I think has definitely helped.

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Panicmode1 · 24/10/2018 17:40

I moved my son in Y5 due to bullying issues, and it was the making of him. He was so much happier in the new class. Good luck and I hope it all goes well after half term. They are too little to be miserable.....

LadyLuna16 · 24/10/2018 17:44

Did you post about this a while ago and your DH wasn’t keen to move her? Might have been another poster....

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Plipplops · 24/10/2018 20:48

Nope not us LadyLuna, he's on board. She's mostly ok tonight but still very sad, we'll be ok though xx

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