Giving up your seat on the bus

[FrazzyAndFrumpled]

I’m 12w pregnant and sat on a very crowded bus on the way home, with my face buried in MN (what else?) I glance up and notice a heavily pregnant lady stood next to me.

WWYD? I felt like I should offer her my seat. However, I don’t feel able to stand either... so I didn’t do anything felt guilty, but also thought if she wanted a seat, she could have asked me or any one of the other passengers that were seated.

Then she asked me for a seat. Luckily, for some reason, the lady next to me jumped up to give her seat instead. I mumbled an apology and said I needed the seat too.

So a non-incident really and no harm done. But was I wrong?

Bump!

Can you get a baby on board badge? I found mine very helpful, especially as it gets colder and your coat hides a small bump...
and no you weren’t wrong at all, but equally she wasnt wrong to ask

Yes, I think I’ll need to, that should save any awkwardness next time.

To be fair you could have a hidden disability. I'm 7 months pregnant and in that situation i think i would maybe direct the question at a few people, ie is anyone able to let me have their seat please? Baby on board badge is a good idea though. This does annoy me, someone should have offered her a seat

People don't see "baby on board" badges, or "does my bump look big in this?" t-shirts, ime.

I'm 35 weeks pregnant and I'm more able to stand now than at 12 weeks, so no you didn't need to give her your seat. But she wasn't wrong to ask for a seat either.

I don’t know what’s with all these badges. Can’t you just say? People get really passive aggressive when they’re not noticed. What’s wrong with a polite ‘excuse me, I need this seat because XYZ, would you mind, thank you’

I agree with pp. I’m 13 weeks and sometimes feel better than others. If I felt ill i would have said “im sorry im pregnant and very dizzy . IM SURE SOMEONE ELSE CAN GIVE UP THEIR SEAT”. She certainly wasn’t wrong to ask though. Someone else should have moved before she had to ask imo. They can’t all have been pregnant / elderly / disabled.

I find it sad that on a very crowded bus the lady had to ask for a seat at all. Probably 50 people and no one offered her a seat? 🤷🏻‍♀️

I agree, it is sad that she had to ask. But it seems to be very common, IME, people just don’t consider the needs of others and/or are absorbed in their devices.

I was going to stand up for her, but then would have felt very uncomfortable and put out (not her fault, of course!) Need to try and be more assertive when I feel I need the seat too.

Sometimes the more crowded it is the harder it is to actually see who might need a seat!

It used to drive me MAD when I was heavily pregnant on the (shakey, wobbly) bus and no bugger offered me a seat. I used to make sure my bump was very visible ! So I generally asked , but felt shitty doing it. IME young men are the worst!