Why is he doing this?

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Can't work out of this is a me problem, or an ex problem. DS is almost 2, his dad is reluctantly fairly involved in his life. Ex has been with new partner for over a year - they're about to move in together meaning DS will be in regular contact with his dad and his partner every week.

My issue, that I find weird is that recently my ex keeps talking to me about his partner, telling me things that she's done/said that are a little and sometimes calling her names.

I'm not sure what to make of this, and I don't want to get involved in their relationship! I don't know why he keeps telling me things, or what he thinks/wants me to do or say about it but it's making me start to feel a little weird! At the moment, I've just been saying 'that's nothing to do with me/that's your business' or similar but he doesn't seem to care!

Any suggestions wise MNetters?

What do I do??

No one??

Maybe he's trying to have a friendly relationship with you and in some misguided way thinks this is what friends might generally talk about and hasn't clocked the inappropriateness.

Or perhaps he's feeling guilty about moving in with her and so feels the need to signal to you that it's not all rainbows and unicorns.

@LonginesPrime I did kind of think a little along the lines of the second paragraph. There's been many things he's said to me even in the last couple of weeks that is really odd!

And to be honest some of the stuff he's saying about her makes me feel a bit uneasy about my DS being around her - altho I'm aware I have no control over that but still. He's not painting her in the best light!

What sort of thing is he saying?

I can't go into too much detail as it's pretty outing but generally not very nice things. We had some interaction lately (she messaged me out the blue) and when I asked him about it he wasn't surprised and seemed really annoyed.

When their DC was born she gave the child her surname instead of his despite being together at the time (as in in a relationship) and he said he wasn't happy about it but 'she was adamant so that's it'

He has also said that she accuses the 2 of us (ex and me) of still being involved behind her back and 'regularly flips out' about it