I'm scared of my flatmate

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I live in a shared flat with two guys and one other girl. We get on ok, chat in the kitchen but don't socialise together. I've lived here 8 weeks.

Last night, my female flatmate, Y, was eating dinner in the kitchen with her girlfriend E who has been at ours since Sunday. We chatted, I made my dinner, put it in the oven and went back to my room.

15 minutes later, my timer pinged and I went back into the kitchen to find my male flatmate O yelling at Y and E. He was shouting that we are only allowed guests one night per week, the flat is overcrowed, they should get a studio if they want to love together. He is normally very laid back, but he was really going for E and Y. He refused to listen to them or me saying the E had been here two days, I'd not even realised she was here, that's not what the contract says, etc.

I know he's smoked weed before, but I am a little bit worried that he was on something last night. He just kept repeating himself, raving about overcrowding and refused to see reason.

I'm now a bit scared of him, because he is twice my size, and so so angry last night. I'm not sure whether to go to my agent, being as it wasn't me he'd had a problem with. I already lock my bedroom door at night. Any tips to either reassure me, or keep myself safe? I can't move out until Feb.

That’s a difficult one. I think you need to talk to the other flatmates and decide a plan of how to handle him when he has those episodes. It would be best to stick to the residency rules, although breaking them doesn’t excuse his frightening anger.

If you feel very at risk of violence at any point, you may need to consider calling the police.

I’d be pretty fed up if someone was bringing other people to stay without bothering to let anyone know, for all he knows she is planning to stay a week... a month.... perhaps he’s had enough.

You've only been there 8 weeks. Maybe the GF has been staying over several nights a weeks for months and months?

That said there is no reason to rant and rave and be aggressive.

How is the male flatmate in general? When He isn't 'on one' ?