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3 children

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queenofgoogle · 21/10/2018 20:41

IF you have 3 DC, how did you decide to have a third and how did your life change from going to 3 from 2DC. Is it much more difficult to find time money etc.?
I have 2 but I've always wanted 3, but i worry about how I'm going to cope. I hope f one with 2 but not so sure I would with a third.
I'm also enjoying having freedom again now that youngest is 4

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EwItsAHooman · 22/10/2018 13:50

I was one of three and I loved it. There was always someone to chat to/play with but I could have time on my own too without feeling obligated to keep an older/younger sibling company because there was another sibling there for them to hang out with.

I have four DC and found 2-3 (then 3-4) the easiest transitions. Agree with a PP about knowing what is/isn't important, know what's worth stressing about, etc and you get a kind of confidence from it so even when you're sleep deprived and frazzled you know that it passes.

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queenofgoogle · 22/10/2018 14:05

Arghhhhh. I'm so back and forth about it and these posts are marking it worse as one person says yes then the next no . I am grateful for everyone sharing experiences though.Thank you kindly.

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BackforGood · 22/10/2018 14:21

What Ewlts said.

I never minded being a'middle' and I've chatted with my now adult dd about it when this thread has come up before, and she didn't think there was any 'middle child syndrome' nor any 'leaving out'. Quite the contrary - no loneliness / feeling of 'being left behind' when one sibling is out / on a residential or cub camp / on a sports camp, or just round at friend's for a day. Let alone when one goes off to University or leaves home with work.

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PotteringAlong · 22/10/2018 14:26

I have 3. I love them to bits, but if I’d known before I got pregnant what I know now I’d have stuck with 2. Mine are 6, 4 and 2 and I feel and look like death.

queenbeetofive · 22/10/2018 14:48

Hi op 👋🏼

I had 3 under 3 so all very close in age, but yet the 3rd child was always left out growing up, it got so she spent all her time with me whilst the older 2 were very close and played together ( they do say 3s a crowd and I truely believe that!)

Financially I didn't notice a difference, I still had a lot from the older 2 ( clothes, car seats, prom ect) it's only now that their teenagers that I see how expensive they are lol

I went on to have 2 more kids 9 years later, and I'm now considering having another which will be my last (always wanted 6) but don't want the same thing to happen as it would mean 3 kids again x

Elementtree · 22/10/2018 14:52

I loved being one of three. That's why I have three.

safetyfreak · 22/10/2018 15:34

Ah I would not do it unless you had four. I say this as I grew up with 3 siblings and we naturally just paired off. If there were 3 of us, I would bet there be a lot more bickering and one feeling left out.

sidesplittinglol · 22/10/2018 15:46

I've 3 aged 3 and under and yes although very hard work, no time for anything else etc, i wouldn't change it for the world. You adapt and cope. I won't lie, there are definitely days where you will want to run away especially if you have a threenager but the majority if the time you will (hopefully) love it.

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