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Will our neighbours still be pleasant to us?

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clary · 21/10/2018 14:40

New neighbours, not moved in as they want to do work, but they called round and we chatted, seem nice, young kids...

Plans for their extension go in and it's huge, really will block our light 😢 so we objected. I imagine it will go through anyway.

So my question is, will they still be nice to us? Would you be? Our old neighbours were lovely, took in parcels, chatted over fence etc. Don't want to start on a bad foot, but we really are worried about the building work :(

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 21/10/2018 14:45

I guess it boils down to whether planning gets rejected whether they continue to be nice, if it does then they will probably be pissed off.

I don't blame you for objective either, I'd feel the same. Hope it all works out.

pumpkinpie01 · 21/10/2018 14:48

Why don’t u say something to them about your objections so you won’t be second guessing if their attitude to you has changed then your left thinking if they know you have objected ?

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clary · 21/10/2018 15:04

They will know it's us that's objected as we had to say we were neighbours. Pretty sure it will get approved anyway. Sigh. I love our house too

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RangeRider · 21/10/2018 15:08

They probably won't be nice. My parents' neighbour wanted an extension - they said they weren't keen before he put the application in but he put it in anyway. Needless to say they objected (legitimately) & it was rejected - he's had a slightly amended plan accepted but isn't speaking to them now. No great loss though!
Fingers crossed it gets rejected.

LeftRightCentre · 21/10/2018 15:09

Why do you care? They're selfish dickheads. I wouldn't want anything to do with them.

mrsrhodgilbert · 21/10/2018 15:13

We did exactly the same and our neighbours were extremely threatening about it. Fortunately they quietened down after about a year but we don’t speak at all, it’s been about four years now. Very nasty situation.

mrsrhodgilbert · 21/10/2018 15:15

Should have said, we did manage to get them to make some amendments re size and window position

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clary · 21/10/2018 15:26

Oh god, I care because they will be living next door and as such could make our lives most unpleasant.

Also I am not keen on confrontation and prefer to get on with people. I don't have a problem with an extension as such, but the size and double height are the issue 😢 it's a big house already, I do wonder why you would buy a house then want to double its size.

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Angrybird345 · 21/10/2018 15:59

We objected to an extension fir neighbours, as did other neighbors, and they don’t talk to us now.

Caprisunorange · 21/10/2018 16:04

I think they’re bound to be annoyed- I mean they want the extension and you’ve stopped them. That said, I got planning permission recently and haven’t a clue whether anyone objected, I didn’t look. It was granted though

LeftRightCentre · 21/10/2018 16:05

*Oh god, I care because they will be living next door and as such could make our lives most unpleasant.

Also I am not keen on confrontation and prefer to get on with people.*

You don't have to do any confrontation. Just carry on with your life. They don't give a shit about you. Just act like they're not even there. There's no reason for you to even have any interaction with them at all.

Gazelda · 21/10/2018 16:07

Were having a smallish ground floor extension. Architect has suggested a slightly higher roofline in keeping with the style of house.
Our neighbour hasn't objected, but has called round to us for a chat and explained that while it probably will get planning permission, it will affect what he sees from his back windows and garden. We invited them in for a cuppa, pored over the plans together and think we've come up with a design that we'll both be happy with. We're meeting with the architect this week to get his views on the practicalities of the new design.
I like to think we've all been reasonable. And hope that by listening and compromising at this early stage we'll have built up some goodwill which we might need once the noise and dust of building works starts.
So what I'm saying is that maybe a conversation will satisfy you both and ensure good neighbourly relations going forward?

Iaimtomisbehave1 · 21/10/2018 16:08

I bought a house and my extension will more than double it's size. I couldn't get the house I wanted at the price I wanted with the nice garden and area, so I got a small 2 bedroom bungalow with a large garden and I'm turning it into a 5 bedroom house which will still have a large garden. It's perfectly normal to buy a house and then build onto it.

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clary · 21/10/2018 22:40

Hmm I imagine they will still get permission tbh.... So maybe it won't matter. I don't want to invite them over for dinner or anything, just not throw bricks in the street 😁😁

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