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How can I help my friend?

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maskingtape · 20/10/2018 13:42

I have a friend. She's in her 40s and for the last 5 years or so she's had quite debilitating anxiety. She's stuck in a job she really hates but she's single so can't afford to just quit as there's no second income or savings to fall back on temporarily. Her job doesn't help at all but the anxiety has been present before that.

In the past a quick conversation about things, an occasional bunch of flowers to cheer her up etc helped enough to keep her relatively 'even'. Now she's really spiralling. She's had CBT and medication but nothing helped so she won't consider that now. She's anxious and over analyses absolutely everything. She refuses to call in sick to work and won't go back to docs about it.

I want to help her but don't really know how. What can I do? She lives an hour away so I can't just pop in regularly as it would be a 2 hour round trip and I'm quite stressed myself at the moment.

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maskingtape · 20/10/2018 14:34

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Givemestrengthorgin · 20/10/2018 14:43

Hi @maskingtape if your friend is an over thinker does she tend to catastrophise and ruminate? If so, it's probably worse if she spends lots of time with her own thoughts so maybe even a daily phonecall for a while to help break any thought cycle she might be in would help. Also, as much fresh air and time outdoors as possible. Walking is a great way of getting rid of the adrenaline that floods your body when you are anxious. You sound like a lovely friend.

maskingtape · 20/10/2018 14:47

Thanks. I can definitely do a regular phone call and meet for a walk every couple of weeks. Yeah she over analyses absolutely everything.

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