What happened here? (IL related)

[DeeferDogs]

Never had a really close relationship with DH’s parents, he doesn’t so we don’t see them much. But we’re polite to each other, or rather used to be...

MIL sent some clothes for DS. I sent a picture of him back wearing one of the tops and saying thank you. MIL just rang and said that FIL saw the picture and said, quote, “Why is he wearing that shit?”

It seems he thought it was “Too posh” (It was a top from Boots mini club range!)

I am a bit .

Why did

Sorry posted too soon

I was just wondering why would MIL tell me that? I don’t yhink FIL knew MIL had sent the clothes but even so, it was a rude thing to say about my baby!

I would be equally bemused in your shoes OP!

FetchezLaVache I know! Weird all round!

Does she have a weird unfunny sense of humour and think that was in some way amusing? (Yes, I am clutching at straws here).

How bizarre.

That is weird. All I can think is she was trying to be chummy with you about FIL being “unsophisticated” maybe. She probably thinks it’s a good brand, and wants to show off to you that she knows that and he doesn’t?

PrincessTwilightStoleMyToddler I don’t know, I don’t think so.

All I can think of is that she was “punishing” FIL somehow by telling us (because she was annoyed he’d said that about something she had chosen).

Not a big deal, don't worry about it.
No offence meant to your baby I'm sure.

I don't see what the issue is here tbh.

VladmirsPoutine Really? The grandfather said the baby is dressed in “shit” clothes! The grandmother rang up to tell the OP!

It's a bit weird she told you, if anything she could of pulled FIL up about it if she were so bothered.

This is the kind of thing my Mother does (that is the second time today I have posted that). Tells you something 'odd' or not nice my Dad has said but not pulling him up on shitty stuff.

I've given up trying to work out why they do it

I'd reply asking if he was aware it is the top that she bought and how its weird reaction. No man I know would even notice what a baby has on, let alone comment like that. Weird

FunSponges That’s an interesting point. I think FIL has a chip on his shoulder about “looking posh” rather than the actual clothes, which weren’t posh at all. In fact he seems to have a chip on his shoulder about all things “posh” now I think of it. I think maybe he has some insecurity about DH getting on, going to uni, moving away, well paid job... Perhaps he thinks he will lose touch with his grandson?

Or maybe I’m just over analysing

Except... DH just said his mother mentioned it to him also, but said “Why has she dressed him in that shit?” .

The “she” has to be me, no other shes here, which somehow makes it ruder!

I told DH (jokingly) he should text his dad “She has dressed him in that shit because mum bought it for him” .

Maybe mil thought it was funny as he was totally caught out since she was the buyer not you. As in " can you believe he said that to me and then found out l bought them....Just ignore them and give it no more thought.

VladmirsPoutine Really? The grandfather said the baby is dressed in “shit” clothes! The grandmother rang up to tell the OP!

Henry Yes really. It reminds me of the time my then partner had decided to do some sort of juice cleanse for a week. For whatever reason he'd gone to his parents' house on Friday evening (having started the juice cleanse the preceding Monday). His mother found it incredibly wild that my partner ate a bacon sandwich on Saturday morning and called me to tell me all about the bacon sandwich eaten with white bread no less. I was a bit....umm.. ok... great...