Money as a wedding present.

[Allstarspookster]

I’m just wondering how much is considered to be appropriate?
Just for context. It’s a friend and work colleague and we are invited to the ceremony and afters. It’s local, and a long way from any posh city affair.
I know it’s contraversial to ask for money but they have so it is what it is. I just don’t want to get the amount I give wrong.

Just give what you would have spent on a gift. We usually give £100/£150 from us as a couple.

We usually give 150 -200. That's euro for us. That's what we received too.

We give £50 to a friend because that’s what we can afford

Ah, quite a bit more than I was thinking

istherain I was thinking £75.

I think that would be great. You can’t give more than you can afford!

£150-200 is way too much for me.

I normally give £50 tops

We give £50 or more if we don't need a hotel or there's a free bar. We only have a certain budget for weddings which includes everything, it can easily add up to a few hundred being a guest.

It’s a cash bar. This is so hard, I don’t want to give too much as I know she would be embarrassed but I don’t want to seem mean either.

We give £100 as a couple

Right I have gone for £80. It’s in the card and sealed now.

We do 100 for day 50 for evening guests

I think that’s very reasonable OP

That sounds perfect OP.

Hope you all have a great day.

Thanks, the weather is good for a barn wedding so I’m quite looking forward to it

£50 for family, £40 for fried. £150 is astonishing. Imagine if all 100 guests gave £150, you don't often hear about people getting 15k cash wedding gifts do you!

Ds, (who has just finished his MA so is home at the moment) is going to a wedding next week in the UK. We are paying travel, hotel etc (we are taking him over so as to have a weekend back in UK ourselves), and money has been requested for a present. As ds has no money, I am paying this as well.

How much should I give?

I should have invited some of you to my wedding! 😱 I usually go with £30 for friends 

Scaryteacher I’d be tempted to go with a really nice card! That’s a huge expense for a wedding your not even attending.

Allstars I want to go to Sainsbury and have a weekend out of near Brussels, so it's a bit of a jaunt for me. I was going to donate £50; ds wanted to ask the bride how much she wanted...I stopped that one!