I want to crawl in to a hole and die.

[overagain]

I've had a shit day.

I'm very unhappily pregnant, there was a dickhead of a doctor who refused to consider me for a c section without even asking my reasons for wanting one (after 3 midwives and one other doctor have both said it's fine) then not one of the three bakeries or 2 supermarkets near work had any iced buns that didn't have blasted candied peel in them. It's just tipped me over the edge today.

I just wanted to come home and have a glass of wine in a stupidly hot bath. But I can't because a) I'm pregnant and b) we don't currently have a bath.

Honestly I just want to cry and go to sleep and never wake up.

I presumed c sections were always an option, if that’s what the mother wants, regardless of reason. Just thought u had to jump thro more hoops.

Hi over again,

Looks like there are a few of us with this issue. The c section not iced buns although I did almost have a melt down when b and m had ran out of boxes of malteasers

Anyway I’m sorry you’ve had a difficult doctor. I can only imagine the doctors that are deliberately obstructive are men or women who haven’t had a child, never mind a traumatic birth/injury. Even then a bit of kindness/use of their imagination wouldn’t go amiss when talking to ladies who have requested a c section.

I have been stalled until 35 weeks of my pregnancy and I have to go back then and see a consultant.
The kindness that they treat already trauamatised pregnant women with just blows me away at times.
I don’t understand what difference it would be for them to sign it off for us at 20 weeks or 35.

My plan is most definitely if I come up against any resistance at 35 weeks and I do not leave hospital with a date for my c section then I will be contacting pals.
I know how you feel however it really is an unsettling time.
If I were you I would maybe consider contacting pals after this appointment, as it will start a paper trail of records indicating the distress that this has caused you.

Also have a look at this if you haven’t already, birth rights did this research to see what each trusts policy was on elective c section. Just find them on the map and see if they responded, it’s very recently published only August this year.
www.birthrights.org.uk/maternal-request-caesarean/

Good luck and hope today is a better day for you.

OP, definitely raise it with your midwife in the strongest possible terms. Make it very clear how anxious you are, now that there has been an attempt to snatch the c section you need away from you. I would put a call in to the midwives about it today, rather than stew on it till next week. It also starts to lay a paper trail of the effect this is having on you, which is unnecessary, and the fault of the registrar.

Ask the midwife if it is acceptable for Drs to make clinical decisions without reading a patient's notes. Ask her if it will be good for you and baby for you to be really anxious about it (and don't be fobbed off if she tries to reassure you or brush it aside). Say you will be making a complaint to PALS if you don't get booked in for C section today.

That dr was an absolute arse.

I also hope you find a suitable iced bun. You need an old-fashioned bakers, which can be hard to find these days.

I'VE GOT AN ICED BUN.

Could have kissed the woman in the bakery (I didn't coz I'm not crazy, but I felt like it). Bought two. Now wishing I'd bought all 3.

Well done OP I once burst into tears in a cafe because they told me they had run out of pastries. A lot more was going on but that was the straw that broke the camel's back!

You can get your section. Ask your midwife to refer you to another doctor. When you have time and are in the right frame of mind write down your reasons to request a c-section and quote NICE guidelines. Put that in your notes so you can refer to it during your next appointment. Best of luck

Glad you got your iced bun!

I too had to have c-sections due to risk of permanent disability with a natural delivery. My consultant was lovely and calmed my anxieties about what would happen if I went into labour and I got a midwife who was adamant it would be ok to try naturally (I had that conversation repeatedly while pregnant ), by telling me they had a whiteboard for all the patients like me. It had our name / nhs no (can’t remember) and a message on the lines of “this is Miss X’s patient - do not do anything except call her if this patient comes in!” Might be worth asking if your hospital has something similar! Good luck

Spiced and Fruited Ice Buns are the bomb.

Go back to your GP and keep at it.

Speak to another doctor or try a different trust. Don't stop until you get the birth that YOU want. Don't make it easy for them to refuse you.

Honestly I do not understand why doctors try and prevent women from having sections of they've had a previous traumatic birth. It's ridiculous.

Next appointment go in armed with NICE guidelines!

GreenMeerkat my trust seem pretty good, I've spoken with 3 midwives and 2 doctors and apart from yesterdays dickhead they've all been very positive, understanding and accommodating about me having a section so I have no reason to think I won't get one eventually, it's just not nice not knowing.

This pregnancy isn't exactly wanted (due to the issues it'll cause me and then having a tiny baby whilst dealing with those issues) - give me this child in 2 years time without a labour and I'd be ok.

No sympathy from me op, as I now want an iced bun. And I've just walked past our bakers that sell them.

Spiced and Fruited Ice Buns are the bomb. Fake news, MsNowtyBach, fake news. Unless 'bomb' was a typo for abomination?

OP, I'm glad at least the iced bun is sorted.

MirriVan yes that's how I was caught. The people on the bus pointed at it helpfully, as they passed.

I’ve had the officious registrar. Second pregnancy. First was emergency CS. My consultant at the time advised that I was unlikely to give birth naturally and so should have elective CS for any further children. Roll on two years. Hospital appt. Registrar refuses to book me in for section. Bangs on about vbac being very successful. I was upset and angry. I made appointment to see my actual consultant. I was clear that I wanted to him and not any of his registrars. When we met, he was the only one who had my previous notes. He looked at his registrars notes and said “40% chance of successful vbac? She was being a bit over optimistic. When do you want your CS.” It was such a relief.
Make an appointment to see your consultant. Make sure you know what the NICE guidelines are. Be clear on what you’ve been advised and that you’re not prepared to risk any further birth injuries which could be avoided with a elcs. The consultants are much more pragmatic than their registrars. I suppose experience and authority helps.

Good luck with everything. Did you get your order fed bun?

Sorry, you’re having a tough time. Last thing you want to do in pregnancy is make your own cake but in desperate iced bun craving and none to been seen, I’ve bought hotdog rolls and covered them in icing.. you can even add jam! Chuck in the fridge for ten mins and you’ve got a makeshift iced bun. I feel for you with all of what you’re going through but the iced bun really was the icing on the cake

I have never seen iced buns with candied peel. Is this a regional thing? So glad cos I hate it. Take care of yourself op.

Iced buns need currants but no peel, and should be cut in half and served with butter. And now I bloody want one.

I'd never considered buttering an iced bun. Do you cut them vertically rather than horizontally so there is icing on both bits?

No, horizontally. The iced buttered part is the treat. Either that or sandwich it together and eat like that.

I have had a lovely fresh saffron bun for breakfast. No icing, and raisins and peel, but still gorgeous

OP, buy a 12 pack of finger rolls & some icing sugar. Make 12 iced buns to have at your leisure

OP, you have every sympathy from me. If I knew then what I know now, I'd have insisted on a second CS, and not attempted VBAC. I hope this gets sorted for you.

As for iced bubs, Aldi do a packet of 6 plain iced bubs, my DS inhales them 😁

Bubs? What kind of autocorrect is that ?
Bubs, of course