If you have a weekday, term time, childfree wedding you have to accept not everyone will attend!

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Just need a rant! DH's uni friends invited us to their wedding which is on a Friday, six hours drive away, in termtime and child free. I work in a school and we have a 2.5 year old. We know noone in the town in which they are getting married. Now I hear that they have been criticising me for the fact that I am not attending (DH is going). The only possible childcare we could have used is MIL and she is a teacher so can't do that day. If it were a Saturday or Sunday we could have made it. Surely people realise that if you decide to save money by having a weekday, termtime wedding then you may not have everyone you want there?!

I think Delphinium makes a good point.

Another who is amazed anyone thinks it is ok to phone in sick to attend a wedding

It's there own fault for being cheap !

That specific invite thing is a bit rubbish and totally justifies you not going. Maybe they are aware of that in the back of their mind and being defensive.

We didn't invite everybody's kids to our wedding because we were on a tight budget ourselves. I'm the youngest in my generation of family and all of my many cousins had loads of kids each. We'd have been overrun and cost a fortune. Of course it then meant that the cousins couldn't come and I felt v bad but y'know managed to suck it up and I def didn't complain they weren't there!

And I did say babies under 2 could come for the bfeeders etc but luckily I didn't have too many friends with babes then.

Sorry meant to tag @motheroftinydragons in prev post

Yes it may be that friend who told us is just trying to stir things up although I have no reason to doubt their word. I suspect that perhaps I was wanted more as a possible hotel room than anything!