No idea what to do next

[Blackladybug]

Hi,

I did have a thread but I can't seem to find it to add to it. I've x posted from the Legal board to hopefully get some advice?

I reveived a letter from DS's dads solicitor 29th Augist asking to be able to pick his son up one day a week for 4 hours when he's home from work (he works away a few weeks on/off). I replied saying no as Children's services said it has to be supervised, and offered instead contact centre which I gave full details of, and indirect contact by way of me sending a weekly photo and update (which he asked for) and I proposed that he do similar by sending a video/voice clip/ and photo so that DS still has that contact when he's away and gets to know his voice ect (DS is 1)

Its now been 5 weeks since I sent the reply. His Dad hasn't done any of his side of the indirect contact, though I've done mine. He's been back from work for 3 weeks and apart from the original letter from his solicitor, I haven't received a reply to my letter so I've no idea what he's doing. Should I just leave it? Or should I contact his solicitor again to find out his dad's intentions?

Any advice would be great because I've no idea what to do next.

Just leave it. The ball's in his court but it doesn't sound as though he's in a hurry. Maybe he's lost interest, maybe he just wanted to annoy/intimidate you. The next step would be for him to apply to the court for a defined contact order and for the court to decide how much contact he gets, where and when.

Give his solicitor one call to show you're cooperating, confirm that they've received everything they need to from you and then say "I'll wait to hear from you now shall I?" And then it's for them/him to sort out.
I'd also probably send the solicitor a signed for letter saying what was discussed in the call.

singlenotsingle he absolutly doesn't have an interest, and I honestly think the only reason he sent the letter was because he was looking bad to a few people. What he proposed was ridiculous given the circumstances (having to have supervised contact) and clearly had outright lied to his solicitor. I'd be happy for it to go to court.

bonfireheart I wondered about doing similar, making sure he got the letter and outright asking what his dad's Intentions are?

His Dad isn't really interested, seen him a handful of times. I'd love for him to have regular contact with him, and honestly think he expected the letter would scare me into conforming.