How long til child maintenance service contact him? Terrified

[marshmy]

I'm applying for child maintenance on Friday when i get my child/working tax.

This is after months of arguing with my abusive ex about it. I'll have thought we've come to an agreement just for him to go back on it.

So i'm doing it this Friday, He's going to go mental, he's threatened to quit his job if i do this, i don't think he will as it's not really worth him losing his 40k salary but it is going to cause a huge argument.

How long between me applying and them contacting him? I'd feel a lot less anxious about it if i had a rough time frame of when the abuse will start.

Anything from 2 weeks to a month depends how busy they are when you ring ask xxx

Mine was roughly a week. My stbxh went crazy too, said he was SO ANGRY with me. He tried to fight the award. He lost. Best thing I ever did. Don't back down they're his children too.

He makes me feel like such a weak person, i hate that he still has this affect on me, but i'm struggling so much at the minute and it seems as though he's living the life of riley having absolutely no responsibilities. I'm sick of it. I'm not going to back down it's not fair! I'm going to have to be very strong he's a very determined person i believe he will harass and abuse me every day until he gets his way.

What on earth makes them so angry about providing money for there children? It makes NO sense i know that if the tables were turned and i was earning his wage i'd have no issue paying for my daughter

They truly seem to believe they are paying for your lifestyle not contributing to raising there child

Exactly what abbs said. My exh couldn't understand how my salary was not taken into consideration and how unjust this is. You earn a good salary he protested. But he earns 10k a year more than me with no commitment (he lives with his new wife in her house so no big mortgage like me). He sees it as him giving ME his money, he fails to realise it all goes on his dc.

It takes 2 to argue. Block him. Have his emails forwarded to an account you can choose to look at when you want to.

Never say anything about it to him. This is a government decided legal contribution - it's not up for discussion.

If he is abusive or harasses you. Ring the police.

Dont discuss it with him..

block him - or if you need a number for contact never answer it tell him to txt or get a specific one and only use it when then the children are with him..