Already have older children, can I have another?

[mjoyoriginal]

Hi all,
I am after some advice and hopefully some of you will have some experience you can share with me.
I have 2 children(19 and 9 years old) with my ex husband. I always said that was it and I didn't want any more. However, I am now with a fantastically amazing new man and the conversation of babies has come up. My questions are: Am I too old to be thinking about this (I'm almost 39)?
My daughter is 19, is she too old for me to be thinking of this?
And how hard could it be to conceive (never been an issue in the past)?
Any advice gratefully received
Tia
Mj x

Are you happy/ prepared to go back to sleepless nights, toddler tantrums and soft play days? If you are happy to then go for it

My children are 28, 26, 18, 12 and 4 . It keeps me young ( or at least I like to think so ).
I was 10 yrs older than you when my last one was born !

Thank you. I will

My children are 24, 6 and 3! I love it! If you want one have one and enjoy x

My DC were 21, 19, 17 and 15 when DC5 was born. DC1 and DC4 thought it was absolutely disgusting and unnecessary. DC3 has been like a 3rd parent.

I had 2 MMC before she was born. Each of the 3 pregnancies was almost immediate and I was 42 with the first of them, and 43 with the last. When I was TTC DC1 at the age of 20 it took us 18 months

I have just come to the end of 7 long years of the primary school run and can honestly say I never ever want to do it again. We also didn't really think about the huge hit on our finances of having to pay another 4 years of nursery fees, or that I would have to go PT when the youngest started school.

All our friends are nipping off on cruises and adventure holidays while we are tied to school holidays again.

I really wouldn't be without her and I love her to bits but I don't think we thought it through properly, and life would have been simpler if we hadn't had her. The baby and toddler years were glorious but dealing with a hormonal 11 yo while you are deep in the clutches of menopause is a recipe for disaster.

My daughter is 18 and I’m just about to give birth to a baby boy. She took it really badly at first but has finally come round, I hope when he is here she falls in love with him ❤️

My four are 29, 27, 12 and 6. I also have 8 grandchildren (including 3 steps), some of whom are older than my 6 year old! I'm 48.

Life fun, busy and full of children... just how I like it! I thought I was done after the first two, but a divorce and meeting my wonderful dh convinced me otherwise. It's definitely harder physically being an older mum, but mentally I've found it so much easier. I have so much more patience and less expectations of what they should be doing.

The only side is being a geriatric pregnant mum...

I’m in early/mid 30’s I have one at 16 one at 14 and my baby who has just turned 1.. go for it if that’s what you want.

My 10yo ds has a 33yo sister.

Of course you aren’t too old. If you and dp are in agreement and you can reasonably care for a baby, why not?

Our gap isn't as big as many of these but 27, 23, 14

The older two were a great help and bonded with their dd immediately.
All three are so close now, even though the older ones are not at home anymore.
It's so lovely to see them together and of course it's good for Father Christmas to come back again

I have a 22 year old and a 4 year old. The 4 year old adores his sister. She's moved out but he knows exactly who she is. He adores her and they face time each other a lot.

Do it!

Thank you all for sharing such personal thoughts. It's really helpful to get another opinion. I have 2 best friends who are completely divided over this. It's a difficult decision but I can't live live with regrets.