DS is 5 and in Year1. There is a boy in his class who pinches him and pulls his hair. We had a word with the teachers in reception when this started last year, and they were excellent: said they knew about the problem, that it wasn't just our son, but that the boy does stuff when he knows teachers aren't looking. Then they put together a behaviour plan with the other boy and it all stopped.
Apparently it has now started again, but only at break time and in after school club. After school club is very relaxed and informal. The teachers there supervise but don't really lead activities. This boy is one of three other boys in Y1 that go there, and so my DS does play with them. But he says this boy is still pinching him and pulling his hair. DS says it doesn't happen to anyone else (not sure if this is true or not)
I've spoken to DS about finding other people to play with, but he's very shy and all the other kids at After School club are older. He says he's lonely. And that he doesn't think it will ever stop. It breaks my heart.
In all other respects, DS is a happy and well adjusted child, although he's been very clingy lately (assumed it was just transitioning to Y1), and has started to wet himself occasionally. What should I do? Talk to his class teacher, even though it's not happening in class? Talk to AS club teachers - although I don't think they'll do anything like a behaviour plan and am worried they'll make things worse (e.g. by singling out my son as the one telling tales)? Is there anything else I can do?