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Thumbs up on Messenger - anyone hate it?!

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tigercub50 · 14/10/2018 21:45

Sometimes it’s ok but it can be bloody rude. I recently added a work colleague on Facebook (didn’t work closely but always friendly & she accepted my request straight away). She started a new job recently & had her leaving do last night. I messaged this morning to ask if they had a good evening & that I hoped her new job was going ok & she just sent a thumbs up. Later, I messaged that one of the guys had said there would be a few sore heads & she did another thumbs up ( fair enough that time). I just think the first time was a bit rude & that she could at least have said thank you. Am I overthinking it a bit?

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lucysmam · 14/10/2018 22:03

Sometimes it's handy, to acknowledge something if I haven't the time to actually reply properly. I wouldn't send it in response to either of those things though - that does seem a bit rude to me.

DangerMouse17 · 14/10/2018 22:07

If she is a work colleague, any reason why you didn't attend her leaving drinks?

Maybe she had a sore head herself and was just acknowledging it...but couldn't bring herself to do anything else.

tuttifritti · 14/10/2018 22:12

I don't know. Seems like quite a lot of chit chat in a busy world. How much information did you want? After the first thumbs up I would not have instigated a second attempt at a conversation on the night out.

OvO · 14/10/2018 22:15

You can change the emoji in each conversation. So now when my DH tries to to 'thumbs up' me it sends me the poop emoji. Then I can be all outraged. 😂

Change hers to something random!

tigercub50 · 14/10/2018 22:49

I didn’t get to know about it until I happened to see it mentioned on her timeline. Sometimes people think you know or think someone has invited you. I don’t drink so it wouldn’t be my scene anyway but it would have been nice to be asked

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DangerMouse17 · 15/10/2018 00:15

Well yes so maybe she felt a bit awkward that you hadn't been invited, given you were then messaging her about her leaving drinks. She probably didn't know what to say.

Also there are LOTS of people (me included), who have messenger but absolutely hate it and all the constant pings. I only have it because I can't seem to get the thing off my phone! So don't take it too personal.

3ChangingForNow · 15/10/2018 00:18

Me! It looks passive aggressive somehow!

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