Broken heart

[Willitend]

Hi my daughter moved out at 18 after an explosive argument..that's all we ever done..she was very difficult growing up and i could not handle her outbursts..she would shout at me call me names threaten suicide and i lashed out on her in return..i know it was the wrong thing to do..but it was the only way her behaviour would stop at the time.we haven spoken for months now as i refused to give her money..she constantly would ask for money when she was out of home..i gave as much as i could..but when the money stopped she chose to not see me ever again..i apologised for my lashing out at her..but have experienced severe threats and verbal abuse past few days.

You have done your best by her the only thing you can hope is that she grows out of this phase and learns to give you the love and respect you deserve. She will regret how she treated you one day ..from experience

Thank you so much for replying. Im devastated. I have hit her in the past because of her outbursts..i have apologised from the bottom of my heart. She was using this to blackmail me financially. I know it was wrong to hit and i have lived with the regret since.

It was wrong to hit her yes(although sounds like she must have really pushed you) but if she was really hurt by being hit by you she would either cut you off entirely or accept your apology and move on, blackmailing you is not acceptable. All you can do is reinforce your apology and let her know you are still there for her when she wants to resume (or start) a normal loving mother daughter relationship. Hope it works out in the end

Where is she living now? It must be incredibly hard for you. Do you have support at home? Is she safe where she is?

This happened 4 years ago..she lives with her boyfriend. I have a supportive husband and 2 wonderful sons who i would never dream of hitting. I was 17 when i had her and at 3 years of age she showed anger outburts..i brought her for counselling from the age of 10 upwards..she said she used hate herself and threaten suicude attempted it twice. When she became a teenager she would demand money steal from me and call me names..she showed no interest in her 2 brothers and would attention seek . I loved her so much but couldn't handle her. I held in so much anger that i hit her on occasions..i am not that angry person anymore because she moved out and my home is now peaceful.. she accepted my apology and i funded a lot of her life. but when the funds ran out she refuses any contact and said i ruined her life..i do think she has a personality disorder as i know she has threatened other people for money including her biological father who had no contact in her life. Appreciate advice..thank yoi

Thank you so much