Money in cards

[mydogishot]

I have a very batty, wonderfully eccentric great aunt (GA).
She's a real loner so doesn't like much contact unless it's on her terms.

I don't have a problem with how she is, it's just how she is!

Now this happened today and did make me laugh but my daughter is a bit insulted.

Ok. My daughter had a birthday and GA sent a card, never ever sealed just flap tucked in.
Like always, there is a monetary value written in the corner. She's always done this, even when I was very young.

I've never thought to say anything, thinking that it's fallen out.

My daughter did mention it.
GA said "that's what I'd like to give you, so you know you matter but I don't have it"
She does. Shes VERY rich (maybe this is why)! I've always put it down to her being a bit odd and now her Advancing years

It amused me but my daughter is quite offended.

How old is your daughter?
What an odd thing to be offended by.

So do you think she put the cash inside the card and it fell out - or was stolen? Or is the monetary value what she'd like to give in due course (or in her Will)?

Back in the day, and I do remember this, with birthday cards and Christmas cards, which didn't contain any money/vouchers, then the norm was to just tuck the flap in - in fact, IIRC (although I might be wrong), if you sent a card with the flap tucked in, it was a cheaper postage rate?

For Christmas why not draw a picture of a tin of biscuits on the corner of her card and tell her “that’s what I’d like to give you, but I dont have it. I ate them instead”.

Sounds almost like that bit at the end of Bullseye when the presenter did the “here’s what you would have won” bit.

Does your dd know that she is very rich? If so I can perhaps see how she might view it as a piss take.
Whereas you just know her as eccentric.

It's thoughtful of your great aunt to send a card. But to have money and be so frugal to family is quite mean spirited. And to write that your daughter is woth giving money to as a present then not giving anything is a bit of a insult. It's as though she wants to be in control of having money and the rest of the family know she has it. It money probably makes her feel powerful. But if I was your aunt I would hate to be thought of as someone that didn't vale family enough to share a bit of happiness on special occasions.

I have the same problem with older grandparents at the minute. And I know they have a substantional amount of savings. But they always ask for milk and never pay. Bought Christmas presents worth £5 for me and have asked me to buy them both cigs. I am just 🙁😡😮 especially as I visit everyday. Then to my face they say they have no money but if they had it they would give me a pound. They don't Even say it in a jokey way Seriously. And I am thinking you are either losing your mind or you actually don't care. So why do I give up my time. Some families are just awful I guess

Everyone knoes shes very rich

she married very well, three times!
i just never thought she wasnt putting the cash in, generally £20

my dd is late teens we've never had any help from anyone

ive always done it alone (due to deaths), dd just said "i always wondered why not even one card ever had money in"

I don't think it's an odd thing to be offended by, I think that's mean!

Ah, sorry, I got the wrong end of the stick earlier.

So GA writes a monetary value in the card, but doesn't actually send that money to your DD? I think the best you can do is to explain to DD that GA is rather old, batty and eccentric - and that DD shouldn't take it seriously. Although GA might not realise how nonsensical her cards are to a youngster/teenager.

X-posted.

So you think she might be putting a £20 note in the card, but the money hasn't made it to your DD - either by forgetfulness or theft en-route?

I would be sorely tempted to cut out a picture of some lovely jewellery from the Argos catalogue and stick it in her Christmas card. Or hell, maybe even go to the trouble of wrapping it.

"This is what I would have liked to have got you for Christmas Auntie Mabel"

But of course I wouldn't. I'd just shake my head at my tight fisted old Aunt and graciously accept the card.

The sending of pictures made me laugh!
i suppose i assumed it had fallen out.

she is odd, she floats around covent garden in a kaftan wearing massive glasses and calls everyone darling!
probably outed her now!

dd knows not to expect anything from anyone but she hates empty promises and i suppose this is one

Admittedly she doesnt ask for much, just a photo of us all for her frame
so she costs me nothing!

Is she called Lucy?!?!?!

(Not that the Lucy I know floats around Covent Garden, but the rest sounds fairly accurate!!!)